I've been sitting on this post for a few months now. Its for my book which is aimed at mainstreams backpackers/travelers but i guess Gamers can also learn a thing or two from this. It has been on my site for a few months and i only added my opinion on the gift giving since i strongly oppose to it. I might change my opinion on it whenever i get too old to pick up the youngsters or rich so i can have G-manifesto style game.
The following game post gave me great success on dating and banging with girls in South America (8 flags) and the western world. ( tried out in New York and Holland)
Date game: How to talk her into your bed.
The following advice is for dating a girl, I mean after you got her phone number or online date. This won’t work well in a club because clubs are too loud and too distracting. Clubs are for dancing and more direct game.
You can have the looks of Brad Pitt or the dance moves of Justin Timberlake, if you can’t keep a conversation going with a girl, she will get bored very soon and bail or flake on you. Plain and simple.
So,ok. You got a date with a girl and you’re going for a drink. Yes a drink, not dinner. The first date(s) should always be a drink, not an expensive dinner. Trying to impress the girl with money is wrong and bad for your wallet anyway. Having to pay for expensive dinners and/or gifts/clothes/whatever before the bang is considered non-game/pick up and works only on golddiggers and (semi)-prostitues. Something I strongly advise against and will not ever do. Coffee is always cheap and you can pick up the check without breaking the bank.
What do you talk about ?
Most new conversations die quickly or have awkward silences in them. You just stare at each other and just come up with random dumb questions to keep things going. A conversation should be playful, flirty and fun. Your date has to remember how great it was talking to you, so she will agree to a second date or more spicy things. Girls look further ahead than you and want to meet an interesting person to show of to their friends. Depending on good looks or wealth alone is not enough to keep a girl interested in you. Although it sure helps if you have both of them.
One mistake almost all guys make is that they’re sitting across the table from the girl. Never do this! Even if you don't know her so well. You’re supposed to have a fun animated talk, not doing a business deal. Sit next to her, best way is to keep talking while sitting down, so she won’t notice it too much or just say that you don’t like sitting far away from someone because its impersonal. She doesn’t know you yet so she will accept this. Don't almost sit on her lap or move the chair right next to her but stay within touching distance. You should be able to touch her without having to stretch your arm from a comfortable sitting position. This is important because you have to engage her in the conversation. You must be able to give her a poke, push her away when she playfully insults you and just touch her a lot so she notices that you mean business and you’re not scared of touching her. You’re a sexual guy, show it! Don’t be afraid that you scare her by doing this or feel like some sort of perv. If you are giving her signals like this, you are doing it wrong. You can touch her arms, shoulders or poke in her side. Do not touch her hair or face and mess up her make up, stay away from her legs and other exotic parts (at first).
Here’s a list things to talk about. I scraped it together from some gaming websites and i came up with a few myself and field tested it extensively. Memorize them or make a note on your phone so you can take a peek every once and a while. There’s no specific order, use them in whatever order you want. Use it as filler to close a conversation gap. Make her talk about her feelings but be careful not to show too much of your own. Don’t be afraid to make fun of her and don’t agree with everything she says. It’s important to warm the conversation up before you start with these questions. You have to do about 90 % of the talking at the first 5 or 6 minutes to warm the conversation up because she will hesitant to open up directly.
Conversation Topics
1 – What do you like about this place?
2 – What’s your favorite thing to do in the weekend? and if its raining ?
3 – What did you do today?
4 – If you could lead the life of someone else for a week, who would it be?
5 – What’s the strangest thing you own?
6 – What is your best habit, and what is your worst habit?
7 – Describe your perfect day?
8 – If you could have any job in the world with no chance of failure, what would you want to be? And don't say "Princess" haa.
9 – What are you most thankful for in life?
10 – If you would be ruler of the world from now on, what would you change?
11 – What kind of people are examples for you?
12 – What are the biggest differences between man and women according to you?
13 – Which season do you like the most? and why?
14 – If you could do 3 wishes, what will they be?
15 – If you win 5 million dollar in a lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money?
16 – What do you think is important in a man?
17 – If from tomorrow on, you had no fear of anything, what would you do?
18 – Which day in your life would you want to do over again and would you change anything?
19 – What are your challenges in life?
20 – If someone would invent a pill, so you don’t need to sleep anymore, what would you at night?
21 – What are you ambitions in life?
22 – If you could be the best at any skill, what would it be? (example : singing,dancing,acting )
23 – If you could travel time, would you go back or forward in time? And to what date do you go?
24 – If you had no chance of failure, you can be anybody or anything in the world, how would you want your life to look?
25 – If you’re 90 years old, looking back in time, what life you want to see?
26 – Where are you at in your life and what are you looking for?
27 – What do you have going for you besides your good looks? Look around here, there are a lot of pretty girls, what sets you apart?
28 – Would you call yourself a good girl or a bad girl? Why?...
29 – If you could choose a superpower , which one would it be ?
30 - Who do you think lies more? Man or women? And who is better at it?
( Actually women train men to lie, because every time you ask us if you’re fat or a new dress or whatever, We HAVE to lie. Tell her this !
31- If you were Brad Pitt, who would you rather date? Angelina Joli or Jennifer Aniston?
32 – If there’s one country you could go for a few months, which one would it be? and why?
33 – Which languages do you speak and do you want to learn more?
34 – What kind of work do you do and why? Does it make you happy?
35 – What kind of music do you like? and what feeling does it give you?
Use these questions and have fun with the answers. Fun is the keyword, don’t be serious at all and don’t go through the list as if you were interviewing her. It’s an excellent way to find out anything about her personality and it shows you’re not only interested in getting in her pants. Of course you and I are and this will help you get there. Don't be too shy or embarrassed to ask the deeper questions but don't start off with it. I usually start with question nr 15. It’s a fun way to fantasize about things or you can call her out as a shopaholic. Be prepared she will ask you the same, so think of good answers to give for the whole list or the ones you choose to use.
Use these questions a lot and you will see results quickly. My style is to make fun and make fun of the girl a lot. Be tough in certain subjects, be soft on others. I sometimes laugh if I hear myself talk unbelievable bullshit. Train yourself, practice makes perfect. You can ask these questions to anyone, so practice. When you make fun about a certain thing you can use it as a recurring joke. One of her wishes (NR14) is ridiculous? Make fun of it when you see her the next time. These questions work best with educated women. I found out that girls who are not that educated or well traveled have trouble answering most questions so stick to the simple ones.
A few absolute no-go area’s
Weird sex; talking about sex is good but don’t bring up or try to impress her with knowledge about anything that’s considered perverted. Talking about a threesome should be the borderline. Do not ask about how many partners she had or tell them about yours. If you are a cool guy, than she already knows you have (many) girls in your life.
Status or wealth; a cool guy doesn’t openly flashes cash or talks about how much his house/car/watch/clothes costs. It should be obvious to the girl already that you have money. If you’re kind of broke, don’t make a secret of it.
Violence; do not try to impress her by telling her about kicking some guys ass or how people are scared of you. Don’t make a scary impression on her either or act the opposite; a wimp.
Blood and gore; horror movies, things in the news that are shocking like rape or child abuse. Do not try to show the girl how much of a caring guy you are or how much you are offended by certain things.
Politics; do not act like a green environmental guy, have strong opinions on immigration or human aid. Girls are softer on those subjects and don’t think logical or realistic like most guys unless they are softies.
Religion; always a touchy subject, avoid it or mention that you are not religious.
Racism should be obviously avoided or used with extreme caution.
Cursing, a cool guy doesn’t need to curse to underline his words. It’s a sign of weakness.
And the most important one is; don’t talk about things that are gross or sickening like dirty toilets, deceases, weird conditions or disgusting things about food like the time you ate a rotten egg or stepped on a cockroach with your bare feet and saw his guts coming out. This will put an image in her head picturing you in this situation. She has to be sure you won’t tell a gross story when meeting her friends or family so she won’t be embarrassed by you.
Edit: i dated most girls abroad using couch surfing (from south america on, before that i didn't use Couchsurfing) where i have killer DHV profile but i used it with random girls i met in clubs too. I'll make a post on how to create a killer couchsurfing profile another time.
The following game post gave me great success on dating and banging with girls in South America (8 flags) and the western world. ( tried out in New York and Holland)
Date game: How to talk her into your bed.
The following advice is for dating a girl, I mean after you got her phone number or online date. This won’t work well in a club because clubs are too loud and too distracting. Clubs are for dancing and more direct game.
You can have the looks of Brad Pitt or the dance moves of Justin Timberlake, if you can’t keep a conversation going with a girl, she will get bored very soon and bail or flake on you. Plain and simple.
So,ok. You got a date with a girl and you’re going for a drink. Yes a drink, not dinner. The first date(s) should always be a drink, not an expensive dinner. Trying to impress the girl with money is wrong and bad for your wallet anyway. Having to pay for expensive dinners and/or gifts/clothes/whatever before the bang is considered non-game/pick up and works only on golddiggers and (semi)-prostitues. Something I strongly advise against and will not ever do. Coffee is always cheap and you can pick up the check without breaking the bank.
What do you talk about ?
Most new conversations die quickly or have awkward silences in them. You just stare at each other and just come up with random dumb questions to keep things going. A conversation should be playful, flirty and fun. Your date has to remember how great it was talking to you, so she will agree to a second date or more spicy things. Girls look further ahead than you and want to meet an interesting person to show of to their friends. Depending on good looks or wealth alone is not enough to keep a girl interested in you. Although it sure helps if you have both of them.
One mistake almost all guys make is that they’re sitting across the table from the girl. Never do this! Even if you don't know her so well. You’re supposed to have a fun animated talk, not doing a business deal. Sit next to her, best way is to keep talking while sitting down, so she won’t notice it too much or just say that you don’t like sitting far away from someone because its impersonal. She doesn’t know you yet so she will accept this. Don't almost sit on her lap or move the chair right next to her but stay within touching distance. You should be able to touch her without having to stretch your arm from a comfortable sitting position. This is important because you have to engage her in the conversation. You must be able to give her a poke, push her away when she playfully insults you and just touch her a lot so she notices that you mean business and you’re not scared of touching her. You’re a sexual guy, show it! Don’t be afraid that you scare her by doing this or feel like some sort of perv. If you are giving her signals like this, you are doing it wrong. You can touch her arms, shoulders or poke in her side. Do not touch her hair or face and mess up her make up, stay away from her legs and other exotic parts (at first).
Here’s a list things to talk about. I scraped it together from some gaming websites and i came up with a few myself and field tested it extensively. Memorize them or make a note on your phone so you can take a peek every once and a while. There’s no specific order, use them in whatever order you want. Use it as filler to close a conversation gap. Make her talk about her feelings but be careful not to show too much of your own. Don’t be afraid to make fun of her and don’t agree with everything she says. It’s important to warm the conversation up before you start with these questions. You have to do about 90 % of the talking at the first 5 or 6 minutes to warm the conversation up because she will hesitant to open up directly.
Conversation Topics
1 – What do you like about this place?
2 – What’s your favorite thing to do in the weekend? and if its raining ?
3 – What did you do today?
4 – If you could lead the life of someone else for a week, who would it be?
5 – What’s the strangest thing you own?
6 – What is your best habit, and what is your worst habit?
7 – Describe your perfect day?
8 – If you could have any job in the world with no chance of failure, what would you want to be? And don't say "Princess" haa.
9 – What are you most thankful for in life?
10 – If you would be ruler of the world from now on, what would you change?
11 – What kind of people are examples for you?
12 – What are the biggest differences between man and women according to you?
13 – Which season do you like the most? and why?
14 – If you could do 3 wishes, what will they be?
15 – If you win 5 million dollar in a lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money?
16 – What do you think is important in a man?
17 – If from tomorrow on, you had no fear of anything, what would you do?
18 – Which day in your life would you want to do over again and would you change anything?
19 – What are your challenges in life?
20 – If someone would invent a pill, so you don’t need to sleep anymore, what would you at night?
21 – What are you ambitions in life?
22 – If you could be the best at any skill, what would it be? (example : singing,dancing,acting )
23 – If you could travel time, would you go back or forward in time? And to what date do you go?
24 – If you had no chance of failure, you can be anybody or anything in the world, how would you want your life to look?
25 – If you’re 90 years old, looking back in time, what life you want to see?
26 – Where are you at in your life and what are you looking for?
27 – What do you have going for you besides your good looks? Look around here, there are a lot of pretty girls, what sets you apart?
28 – Would you call yourself a good girl or a bad girl? Why?...
29 – If you could choose a superpower , which one would it be ?
30 - Who do you think lies more? Man or women? And who is better at it?
( Actually women train men to lie, because every time you ask us if you’re fat or a new dress or whatever, We HAVE to lie. Tell her this !
31- If you were Brad Pitt, who would you rather date? Angelina Joli or Jennifer Aniston?
32 – If there’s one country you could go for a few months, which one would it be? and why?
33 – Which languages do you speak and do you want to learn more?
34 – What kind of work do you do and why? Does it make you happy?
35 – What kind of music do you like? and what feeling does it give you?
Use these questions and have fun with the answers. Fun is the keyword, don’t be serious at all and don’t go through the list as if you were interviewing her. It’s an excellent way to find out anything about her personality and it shows you’re not only interested in getting in her pants. Of course you and I are and this will help you get there. Don't be too shy or embarrassed to ask the deeper questions but don't start off with it. I usually start with question nr 15. It’s a fun way to fantasize about things or you can call her out as a shopaholic. Be prepared she will ask you the same, so think of good answers to give for the whole list or the ones you choose to use.
Use these questions a lot and you will see results quickly. My style is to make fun and make fun of the girl a lot. Be tough in certain subjects, be soft on others. I sometimes laugh if I hear myself talk unbelievable bullshit. Train yourself, practice makes perfect. You can ask these questions to anyone, so practice. When you make fun about a certain thing you can use it as a recurring joke. One of her wishes (NR14) is ridiculous? Make fun of it when you see her the next time. These questions work best with educated women. I found out that girls who are not that educated or well traveled have trouble answering most questions so stick to the simple ones.
A few absolute no-go area’s
Weird sex; talking about sex is good but don’t bring up or try to impress her with knowledge about anything that’s considered perverted. Talking about a threesome should be the borderline. Do not ask about how many partners she had or tell them about yours. If you are a cool guy, than she already knows you have (many) girls in your life.
Status or wealth; a cool guy doesn’t openly flashes cash or talks about how much his house/car/watch/clothes costs. It should be obvious to the girl already that you have money. If you’re kind of broke, don’t make a secret of it.
Violence; do not try to impress her by telling her about kicking some guys ass or how people are scared of you. Don’t make a scary impression on her either or act the opposite; a wimp.
Blood and gore; horror movies, things in the news that are shocking like rape or child abuse. Do not try to show the girl how much of a caring guy you are or how much you are offended by certain things.
Politics; do not act like a green environmental guy, have strong opinions on immigration or human aid. Girls are softer on those subjects and don’t think logical or realistic like most guys unless they are softies.
Religion; always a touchy subject, avoid it or mention that you are not religious.
Racism should be obviously avoided or used with extreme caution.
Cursing, a cool guy doesn’t need to curse to underline his words. It’s a sign of weakness.
And the most important one is; don’t talk about things that are gross or sickening like dirty toilets, deceases, weird conditions or disgusting things about food like the time you ate a rotten egg or stepped on a cockroach with your bare feet and saw his guts coming out. This will put an image in her head picturing you in this situation. She has to be sure you won’t tell a gross story when meeting her friends or family so she won’t be embarrassed by you.
Edit: i dated most girls abroad using couch surfing (from south america on, before that i didn't use Couchsurfing) where i have killer DHV profile but i used it with random girls i met in clubs too. I'll make a post on how to create a killer couchsurfing profile another time.
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