As a preface, I didn't write this thread to look for validation or congratulations from other people for my first success. I wrote it because I wanted to share an extremely humbling experience I had because today I woke up a new man. This is to show the new guys that game is not some magic power that gets women to sleep with you after you put a moderate amount of work into it like other things in life. Its hard. Its on its own level in terms of willpower and determination. Unlike most things, you won't get good at it just because you invest time in it. You literally have to invest and experience the emotional pain of feeling like society's reject before you get to the rewards.
That's the cold, hard truth about this shit. If you're not prepared for that, you're never gonna get good at this. Now here's the story.
I've been in the game for eight months now going through what many would call "the pain period". I walked up to girls during the day in front of their friends to hit on them and embarrassed myself constantly to build confidence. I went out to bars and frat parties alone because my friends didn't have the balls to talk to girls with me. Before last night all I had to show for the work I put into pickup was a single 5 minute makeout with a moderately cute girl (the first time i kissed a girl in my life). It was incredibly demoralizing to put so much effort into something and not see it change a thing in my life for two thirds of a year. I started to doubt that I had any power over myself (even after I went on a 4 month super diet last summer and lost 80 pounds).
Last night was intense. I went to a frat party and two different bars with some friends and I made out with three or four different girls. Two of them were 7s and one of them was a 9. I was approaching like a madman doing caveman game and even the girls that wouldn't makeout with me were laughing hysterically at the vibe I was putting out. I got a positive response in some way from about 90% of the girls I approached and I would've probably had more makeouts if I gave the girls more time to get comfortable around me by socializing before I went sexual. I almost pulled the 9 back to campus alone but she refused to leave without her friend.
As amazing as last night was, today I woke up shaking. Literally scared shitless. My entire life I had such a strong belief that I could not see myself as a sexual being and that was shattered in a single night. It was probably the strongest belief I've ever had about anything. My brain didn't know what to do or how to handle having that belief broken. My body chemistry is so fucked up right now that I might not even go out tonight on a saturday. I need a few days to let my brain process that what happened DID actually happen before I can really enjoy that success.
So for all the newbies, that's what the game is about. Reconstructing your strongest beliefs about yourself through humbling emotional stress. If you're avoiding facing the pain of doing that you aren't changing no matter how much you approach women. It was a painful eight months avoiding my fears and lying to myself that I was changing when I wasn't.
That's the cold, hard truth about this shit. If you're not prepared for that, you're never gonna get good at this. Now here's the story.
I've been in the game for eight months now going through what many would call "the pain period". I walked up to girls during the day in front of their friends to hit on them and embarrassed myself constantly to build confidence. I went out to bars and frat parties alone because my friends didn't have the balls to talk to girls with me. Before last night all I had to show for the work I put into pickup was a single 5 minute makeout with a moderately cute girl (the first time i kissed a girl in my life). It was incredibly demoralizing to put so much effort into something and not see it change a thing in my life for two thirds of a year. I started to doubt that I had any power over myself (even after I went on a 4 month super diet last summer and lost 80 pounds).
Last night was intense. I went to a frat party and two different bars with some friends and I made out with three or four different girls. Two of them were 7s and one of them was a 9. I was approaching like a madman doing caveman game and even the girls that wouldn't makeout with me were laughing hysterically at the vibe I was putting out. I got a positive response in some way from about 90% of the girls I approached and I would've probably had more makeouts if I gave the girls more time to get comfortable around me by socializing before I went sexual. I almost pulled the 9 back to campus alone but she refused to leave without her friend.
As amazing as last night was, today I woke up shaking. Literally scared shitless. My entire life I had such a strong belief that I could not see myself as a sexual being and that was shattered in a single night. It was probably the strongest belief I've ever had about anything. My brain didn't know what to do or how to handle having that belief broken. My body chemistry is so fucked up right now that I might not even go out tonight on a saturday. I need a few days to let my brain process that what happened DID actually happen before I can really enjoy that success.
So for all the newbies, that's what the game is about. Reconstructing your strongest beliefs about yourself through humbling emotional stress. If you're avoiding facing the pain of doing that you aren't changing no matter how much you approach women. It was a painful eight months avoiding my fears and lying to myself that I was changing when I wasn't.
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