[CaptainChardonnay]

Fuck her!

[Vaun]

(11-06-2017 12:10 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

Well, I get home, text her to meet up, she says shes busy all week but can see me the following week(this week). We agree on a day. Then I text her today, and no answer. She got away.

Shes either dating somebody, or whatever. Kind of bummed. Girl was just what I wanted. We had a few mutual friends. Texted her tonight, no answer, deleted her number. I wont try to restart, I know from the past that desperate restarts only turn them completely off.

Ill walk away and keep looking.

So my gut was right, she texted me the next morning, and then she sent me this right before we were supposed to meet again;

Quote:

Hi Vaun, unfortunately I need to cancel for tonight. I’m trying to work things out with my ex, and I want to be respectful of your time. I should have mentioned it yesterday but was still thinking it through. If something changes I will let you know. I did enjoy meeting you. It wouldn’t be fair to anyone to carry on at this time. Hope you understand.

My gut told me that she was either not into me, or seeing someone else, by the way the tone and frequency of her texts had changed. I have never had a girl cancel a second date with such a formal text, so it makes me think she is telling the truth. And makes me think my gut is telling me the right things. Really like this one though, and she fits exactly what I want. Restart text in a month or so?

[fitness2569]

Bro hell no NEXT HER. You are seriously considering LTR a girl who wants to go be someone else's cumbucket and then save you for later. Open your eyes fam

[Mig Picante]

No contact. Don't risk catching oneitis.

Said it yourself "I know from the past that desperate restarts only turn them completely off. "

[kaotic]

Vaun that sounds like a soft next regardless if it's true or not.

Basically you Good Luck Chuck'ed her back to her if it is true.

At least she was polite about it - save her number, don't contact her, move on.

[Mizo1234]

Guys, how do you reply yo flake text?
She is the one who texted on the day of the date to confirm. Then, I got this text few mins before the date
-" I got a headache . Sorry I have to go home. Raincheck please"
-I replied "Cool drive safe."

I usually reply with something unrelated like " Oh I am watching XXX show and it is really good" to give the impression that I don't care .

Thoughts?

[ksbms]

You don't reply, you roll off for 24h at least (unless really genuine explanation).

[CynicalContrarian]

One small, small silver lining of being flaked on.
You won't be referred to as "free food"...

@EdLatimore 15h

Quote:

Don't be that guy who ends up saved in a woman's phone as 'free food'

Free food huh? Ouch.

[Mig Picante]

Was meant to meet up with wisdom tooth chick tonight after she finished at work at 9pm.
I got a message from her around 3pm asking to cancel and if we could reschedule for tomorrow as she has work in the morning at 9am.

I said no worries but not sure what I've got on tomorrow night...
She texted a bunch saying she didn't feel like drinking when she has work tomorrow and sent me a picture of her full week work roster to show when she is free. Haven't replied.

She's 23 so I want to bang her as I'm mid 30's but don't think we have much in common and she's making this too difficult.

[Rang off the Pipe]

Just had a chick I was supposed to meet with tomorrow flake on me with this excuse, "I'm sorry I changed my mind".

Lol

[Mig Picante]

(11-25-2017 09:03 PM)Rang off the Pipe Wrote:  

Just had a chick I was supposed to meet with tomorrow flake on me with this excuse, "I'm sorry I changed my mind".

Lol

That's honest and surprisingly frank for a chick!

She gave plenty of notice too, that's refreshing!

Ps. Still delete her

[WomenLuvDeez]

Chick flaked(If you would call it that) saying she didn't have the keys to her apartment (which in hind site she did tell me last night she was moving tuesday to another place) and that her roommates were going out an she didn't have the keys(sent me this 2 hours before we were supposed to meet. Had a good night last night with her an all, kissed, etc.. I didn't say much other than okay and that I need my phone charger back which she gave me an address to come to her in the morning to come grab it. Don't plan on saying much in the way of conversation with her besides getting it back, unless she offers another day but even then my week is pretty full with dates so unless I am certain its a f close then I am gonna go with another.

[bullet]

(11-25-2017 09:03 PM)Rang off the Pipe Wrote:  

Just had a chick I was supposed to meet with tomorrow flake on me with this excuse, "I'm sorry I changed my mind".

Lol

Lol. Received the same one today. I actually thanked her for it and I meant it.

I prefer this openness ten times over some bullshit busy schedule or acute illness excuse.

Still deleted her number though. Fickle little bitch.

[just a human]

I still believe - some girls just play dirty games - especially 7s. They know from beginning, that they will not actually meet you, but they want just somehow make you sad or make you chase her, or simply entertain themselves. Last year one bitch tried to play with me in such a way -and I let her know, that I don't accept this kind of behavior. She didn't answer. But she was religious, and you know what - at the end of the year ( I already deleted her number) she apologized to me for her behavior.

[meetjoeblack]

(04-14-2012 03:25 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  

In keeping with the I-Just Threads (Had Sex and Got Cockblocked), this is another common occurrence worth reporting to the group.

This has some overlaps with the classic What are some of the lame excuses chicks used to flake on you thread, except this has the live reporting-feature to it.

I, myself, just got flaked on. I had a date scheduled with Rasta-Man Girl for tonight. I'd hit her up somewhat out of spite for Rasta Man, after he tried to call me out on my game, but she's legitimately cute (see thread), so it's a legit date. I got a text from her like half hour ago saying she got "ropped into throwing her friend a surprise birthday party" and wanted to meet earlier.

Not one to be double-shifted, I said "let's just do it some other time." Imagine my surprise when she made a specific, soon-ish proposal with enthusiasm and contrition. Given these Text Game 101 rules, I caved.

Late to the party but like the old saying goes, "better late then never."

Solution to flaking or women ghosting?

NEXT SET!

WASH/RINSE/REPEAT!

(11-25-2017 11:31 PM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(11-25-2017 09:03 PM)Rang off the Pipe Wrote:  

Just had a chick I was supposed to meet with tomorrow flake on me with this excuse, "I'm sorry I changed my mind".

Lol

That's honest and surprisingly frank for a chick!

She gave plenty of notice too, that's refreshing!

Ps. Still delete her

Strong this!

Always, NEXT SET! Acquire digits? Next set. Pull? Next set.

I asked one of the best players I know if he ever wants to settle down, get married, have kids? He replied with, he is young and good looking. More importantly, take a look around. He pointed out girls 18, 19, 20, 21. Then, he went onto say, tomorrow, even hotter girls are turning 18. #SAVAGE!

[mementoaudere]

Got flaked on yesterday by a girl I had to meet for dinner with the classic "something came up" excuse. Luckily I had another afternoon date with a different girl, which continued into the night and ended in my bed. So thank you flaky girl!

[meetjoeblack]

I picked up two girls. One initiated contact. She suggested we go out some time. I made an invite. She has not said anything. She text again and then, nothing with a follow up. NEXT SET her. Another girl I got her number and said she and I could workout. I invite three times and it has gone nowhere. I NEXT SET her.

In both incidents, I have neither girls numbers anymore meaning, NEXT SET! Furthermore, they can contact me. I wont contact them. Far too many girls turning 18 everyday. ZERO FUCKS GIVEN.

[Amigoish]

just got flaked by my potential #100 notch for 2nd date. a 7 italian chick. Makeout on first date but no bang.

"hey can we postpone to tomorrow? gonna work until late tonight"

Problem is that i don't have time and somehow I think she is dictating the frame. She wouldn't work too late.

[Remington]

Got an early morning text from a girl I'm supposed to go out with this evening:

Her: You're going to hate me...
Her: I thought for sure I would be recovered today but I woke up and I've lost my voice (and am dying otherwise I think I've lost a lung)...can we revert back to our OG plan and meet at xxx next Tuesday? My calendar is all clear
Her: I swear I am normally not flakey and like to have plans!
Rem: Might be busy Tuesday
Her: Ok well I think I can do any day except Thursday bc that's our holiday party
Her: I'm really sorry tho, I feel like a total bitch
Rem: No worries. Feel better

I'll reschedule as she told me since Monday she has been sick.

Sent texts this morning to two other girls that wanted to hang today. We will see which one bites.

[bullet]

Well, it took 32 years, but yesterday night I finally experienced it. A no show!

Tinder girl of course. She confirmed the date around 2pm. Then just didn't show up at 8. Texted me around 9 saying how she totally forgot. Not even an apology.

Kids these days.

[treypound]

(11-12-2017 08:40 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

(11-06-2017 12:10 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

Well, I get home, text her to meet up, she says shes busy all week but can see me the following week(this week). We agree on a day. Then I text her today, and no answer. She got away.

Shes either dating somebody, or whatever. Kind of bummed. Girl was just what I wanted. We had a few mutual friends. Texted her tonight, no answer, deleted her number. I wont try to restart, I know from the past that desperate restarts only turn them completely off.

Ill walk away and keep looking.

So my gut was right, she texted me the next morning, and then she sent me this right before we were supposed to meet again;

Quote:

Hi Vaun, unfortunately I need to cancel for tonight. I’m trying to work things out with my ex, and I want to be respectful of your time. I should have mentioned it yesterday but was still thinking it through. If something changes I will let you know. I did enjoy meeting you. It wouldn’t be fair to anyone to carry on at this time. Hope you understand.

My gut told me that she was either not into me, or seeing someone else, by the way the tone and frequency of her texts had changed. I have never had a girl cancel a second date with such a formal text, so it makes me think she is telling the truth. And makes me think my gut is telling me the right things. Really like this one though, and she fits exactly what I want. Restart text in a month or so?

No. Resist the temptation to check in. While it's tough, it's better for you to move on now rather than get invested emotionally with someone who is still into their ex. 6 months from now when you are really in deep.

[zombiejimmorrison]

This wasn’t a flake per say but it was strange behavior non the less, it’s most likely just low interest on her part but would like to confirm it.

Ask chick out for a date, and she proposes a date like the next day or something I say I can’t make it so we can reschedule, she’s like sure. A week goes by I get text from her telling me let’s meet up, I set up a date and time. We meet up, she seems tired and not really into the convo, she’s laughing and all that but the date is brief like 40mins. She tells me she needs to go, I’m having a cigarette, I finish it and catch her outside and wave to her for a proper goodbye give her a hug and kiss and then she mumbles I’m confused about my life. What? I just ignore it and walk off. She seemed kinda keen, when we were chatting and she didn’t mind me touching her hand, I probably could’ve gone in for the kiss at one point but hesitated. What do you guys think? She bailed because I didnt make a move quick enough or just low interest?

[torridon747]

Quote:

I’m confused about my life.

Chances she very recently fucked someone or saw another man? Getting that vibe at all?

Maybe she just wanted a screaming orgasm and you didn't escalate.

Hard to say without more details.

[zombiejimmorrison]

^^
Yeah maybe a little, she seemed tired. Interested a bit but tired. She gave me that eye contact, like kiss me you fool, but my balls shriveled up a little, damnitt!

She was laughing and was receiptive to touch, what should I do now? Leave it be or message?

[torridon747]

You're trying to hit it right? Burn the lead to the ground if it's not social circle. Hit her up and invite her to your place for a movie or whatever. It can't hurt anything but your ego. See where it goes man.

Get her on some "you seemed tired the other night but I had fun" shit. Maybe she'll hint at what was going on you cam build some comfort and momentum off that and send the invite out.