[Pinch]

Since my last post, which mainly consisted of negativity , I have been doing a hell of a lot better . My friend and I went into Boston a few weeks ago and did our first day approaches (though they didn't last more than a few minutes . . I did something I thought I would never do and handled them pretty well, I wasn't very nervous but my conversations didn't lead to a closing phase . . ) I still have many things to work out such as Inner Game and letting go of the inner bitch that's fucking my mental up, but I'm getting there .

So I went to a few house parties in the past week . I was there, with my band, in a house with about 100 people in it, all dancing, screaming, laughing and all of that good stuff . I wasn't drinking too much since I had taken some Tylenol earlier so I was stone cold sober the entire time .

I chatted up some people, mostly to make connections for our group since were trying to get shows , and was successful but for most of the party (I was there for about five hours) I had a very negative feeling going the entire time .

I couldn't get over how stupid everything seemed to me . The party, the dancing, the people especially, music (though our friends band was great) . There's something about parties that I can't get into unless I'm pretty drunk . I just felt like a downer . I didn't try to game any chicks there because I couldn't put on that false sense of happiness or anything because I had already invested about an hour into being alone and If I was to try and run some game (such as asshole game, which is one of the few modes I know) I assumed my friends would shoot me down since they know I read about this stuff .

I'm a musician, so it was somewhat my "scene" and I could have dropped some DHV's or whatever on some hoes, but I actually think I was the one who shot myself down from the start .

I've got a long way to go, I'm going to start reading more so I can up my conversational skills which are at a minimum right now and also, try to get my motivation, confidence and love for myself back to the way it used to be .

Anyways, my questions are, what is the best approach to house parties , what can I do to get myself in a better "partying" mood and also, any book suggestions for good reading - hopefully something that pertains to this post ? ? I know there was a book list somewhere on this forum, but I'd like some other suggestions . .

Alright, thanks

Pinch

[Perseus]

"party mode" is i believe called THE VIBE according to Roosh's bang book. IF you haven't read that, then do so, it is very helpful, straight to the point, no PUA BS.

I don't drink as much as i used to, however that should never be a factor in approaching women at house parties, clubs, bars, wherever.

Dude you're a musician, use that to your advantage, without bragging that is. As for getting into the vibe, or mood to approach, ease yourself into it. I was once at a bar, and wasn't drinking much, and saw two girls, a fat one and super skinny one, so i just said hi, talked to them a bit, introduced them to my buddy, and move on to the hot girls.

As for books, not sure where that thread with books is, but reading Bang by Roosh is a must, regardless whether you're a member of this forum or not. Do some body language readings, i finished recently reading "What Every Body is saying" written by and Ex-FBI agent, thought it was interesting, but definitely isn't focused on women and gaming.

Read up on some old threads on the forum with regard to house parties, there are few of them. House party game is much easier than bar/night club game. You pretty much interact with people through the host (assuming you know him/her), if you don't introduce yourself to the host (it's common courtesy) and ask the host to introduce you to other people. SUPER easy, and you won't be considered a random, in contrast to bars/clubs.

There, that takes the approaching part off the table, as for making conversation, passing shit tests, etc, Roosh's book is more than sufficient to help you through all that.