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10-19-2009, 08:58 AM
What's the strategy at a medium-sized (50-60 people) house party? Do you focus on one girl, or play the field? It seems that if you hit on too many girls, word will spread and you will come across as sleazy. Also, if you do find one particular girl to pursue, should you blatantly flirt with other girls to make her jealous? In a setting where social interaction is somewhat more fluid than a bar, approaching girls is easier. The downside, however, is that since many people already know each other, you can't play the odds or spit game as freely.
Thoughts?
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10-19-2009, 10:31 AM
I love house parties. This really depends on the situation though, if this is a college house party you should hit on people as freely as you please because people will be coming and going throughout the night. If not, you may want to be a little more selective because you'll be dealing with the same core group of people through the night.
Assuming it is not a college party, let's say of the 60 people there, 30 are male and 30 are female, that gives you 30 girls to possibly approach. However, of the 30 between 20 and 25 will likely be taken or undesireable. You're down to possibly as few as 5 girls to approach now. Meet each of those girls, read the situation to see which ones are DTF, then go from there. Obviously when you find one that is into you, pursue that one the rest of the night.
Just play drinking games and whatever she wants to do, that way you can blame it on alcohol like Jamie Foxx. House parties are almost always more chill and it's far easier to approach people, plus if there's empty bedrooms you can crash in you're golden.
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10-19-2009, 10:44 AM
College 'House Party' or not? Very different beasts. College house parties are very informal, and a good number of the people at the party don't even know the hosts.
My general strategy: find a place to post up, where girls will naturally be coming into your periphery. Open them, see how far you can take it. Isolate your girl. If it's going well, you make out with her, or go outside with her for a smoke, and then take her home. Just make sure to keep escalating, and not get stuck in a friendly convo.
You could end up meeting 10 or twenty girls in a night, but you're not quite approaching them. With a volume like that, they're choosing you, you're guaranteed to meet one who'll like you, given decent game.
I was at a house party friday night, made out with one girl who ran off, and she even went around the party later screaming how "some asshole made out with me," as a guy friend told me. And this girl, call her Sara, was friends with Jess, who I'm friends with. And Jess knew I was steadily hooking up with her friend Alex.
After she had ran off, started talking to another girl and took her home (although that ended up going nowhere...).
Don't be deterred by social connections. And no one's going to fault you for talking to lots of girls, as long as you aren't creepy. Talk to and flirt with as many girls as you like. If you're fun, no one cares.
If she's constantly looking to be at the center of the party, or do something 'fun,' and not content just talking to you, she's probably a tease and not that into you.
Edit: I second everything CJ says.
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10-19-2009, 02:21 PM
Roll from person-to-person.
If there was a mark I really wanted to get with I'd usually give her a good 5-10 minutes then I would move on. I would roll through the room and talk to this girl for a couple, then that girl for a couple, then come back to the one I really wanted. There's a reason for that of course.
If you're not after a particular girl then just run through as many as you can collecting numbers and maybe even get one to leave with you. It's a house party and chances are not too many people will know everyone that's there. So don't be afraid that people will talk about you. It's kind of exected really and if you're not going to man up someone else will and will land some prizes.
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10-19-2009, 06:57 PM
Yeah, I agree with everyone before me. You don't need to really worry about talking to all the girls, because you're just being social. There's nothing wrong with being social, and if you're the center of attention, you will make many girls' panties wet.
Another thing I recommend, especially if you get in the habit of going to house parties, is to find a girl you found through day-game and bring her along to one of these parties. When you bring her along and bring her into your "world" you can hook up pretty damn easily.
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10-19-2009, 08:14 PM
Be social and talk to everyone. Act like you're the host.
Don't worry about getting with some chick.
Girls will automatically pick up on that and you'll have your pick if you want.
