Greetings, (a bit long, thanks for reading)
I've "followed" game teachings since about 2007. Looking back, I never really applied the theories or practices, but rather regurgitated them to the younger guys of my fraternity.
"Don't pay more than $30 on a date."
"Respond to LJBF with "I have enough friends, thanks"
"Don't move in together."
"Let her sweat, text her later."
....etc.
In fact, most of the game ideals, I used to advance my professional/academic career. I graduated from a shitty state school, with two very demanding degrees (International Finance & Operations Management), and landed a job with a fortune 100 company before I graduated.
But I never really had a stable of women, I'd go relationship - unattached - relationship. Usually lasted all of 2-3 months, not really worth calling a "relationship" but - I still find sex to be significant, and yet on the other had, I didn't. I don't really think about these girls unless I'm jerking the bro.
In my senior year, I got a girlfriend, who was a lot of fun in the sack, shared my values, etc. But as college came to end - she moved, we grew apart, and eventually I got a text saying: "I can't be your girlfriend anymore, my heart isn't in it." We were together 24/7 for about 13 months. I saw myself regressing into a beta-approval-"you're so awesome babe" guy over the relationship. And since she was still fucking me like a machine, I figured - hey it doesn't matter anymore.
I was upset, no lie - I thought my life was over, etc. Thankfully I had a great friend who slapped me back into reality. All this happened about 10 months ago. Since then I've really just focused on work, literally - lived and breathed it, got 3 new securities licenses and will be taking professional designation courses this fall. Professionally speaking, I'm doing well.
Everything else........meh
By all accounts, I have everything going for me. I'm a good looking guy, I'm taller than 95% of women out there, I have a deeper voice, I'm sharp, I speak well ...etc etc. I'm working out to gain muscle, but it's a slow and demanding process, one that frankly, I'm not 100% committed to, at least on the nutrition side.
The problem is this - I'm a boring person now. I went to school away from my home, and moved back into the area for the job. No I lied - I was always a boring person, I just always had shit to do, so I felt "exciting."
I don't really have shit to do on the weekends. Rather, I don't want to do the shit that is in front of me on the weekends - house parties, clubs, etc.
I know I am probably a little high on myself but I want to ask this question:
If you were starting fresh - where would you start to improve your life? Your first three moves on the chess board.
I want to be that guy having a crazy good time in lord knows where, but when I'm honest with myself, it's not even about me having a good time/experience, it's about being able to show others, how much fun I'm having. And that's what bothers me, I almost feel like everything I've done up to this point, has been to seek the approval of others.
Side-bar: I know how critical and difficult it is to kill the need for approval. But how?
Again, thanks for your time.
I've "followed" game teachings since about 2007. Looking back, I never really applied the theories or practices, but rather regurgitated them to the younger guys of my fraternity.
"Don't pay more than $30 on a date."
"Respond to LJBF with "I have enough friends, thanks"
"Don't move in together."
"Let her sweat, text her later."
....etc.
In fact, most of the game ideals, I used to advance my professional/academic career. I graduated from a shitty state school, with two very demanding degrees (International Finance & Operations Management), and landed a job with a fortune 100 company before I graduated.
But I never really had a stable of women, I'd go relationship - unattached - relationship. Usually lasted all of 2-3 months, not really worth calling a "relationship" but - I still find sex to be significant, and yet on the other had, I didn't. I don't really think about these girls unless I'm jerking the bro.
In my senior year, I got a girlfriend, who was a lot of fun in the sack, shared my values, etc. But as college came to end - she moved, we grew apart, and eventually I got a text saying: "I can't be your girlfriend anymore, my heart isn't in it." We were together 24/7 for about 13 months. I saw myself regressing into a beta-approval-"you're so awesome babe" guy over the relationship. And since she was still fucking me like a machine, I figured - hey it doesn't matter anymore.
I was upset, no lie - I thought my life was over, etc. Thankfully I had a great friend who slapped me back into reality. All this happened about 10 months ago. Since then I've really just focused on work, literally - lived and breathed it, got 3 new securities licenses and will be taking professional designation courses this fall. Professionally speaking, I'm doing well.
Everything else........meh
By all accounts, I have everything going for me. I'm a good looking guy, I'm taller than 95% of women out there, I have a deeper voice, I'm sharp, I speak well ...etc etc. I'm working out to gain muscle, but it's a slow and demanding process, one that frankly, I'm not 100% committed to, at least on the nutrition side.
The problem is this - I'm a boring person now. I went to school away from my home, and moved back into the area for the job. No I lied - I was always a boring person, I just always had shit to do, so I felt "exciting."
I don't really have shit to do on the weekends. Rather, I don't want to do the shit that is in front of me on the weekends - house parties, clubs, etc.
I know I am probably a little high on myself but I want to ask this question:
If you were starting fresh - where would you start to improve your life? Your first three moves on the chess board.
I want to be that guy having a crazy good time in lord knows where, but when I'm honest with myself, it's not even about me having a good time/experience, it's about being able to show others, how much fun I'm having. And that's what bothers me, I almost feel like everything I've done up to this point, has been to seek the approval of others.
Side-bar: I know how critical and difficult it is to kill the need for approval. But how?
Again, thanks for your time.