[alchemist88]

Sometimes in clubs when it is very loud....and I'm trying to possibly get a girls attention, I figured it would be way too creepy or out of order to touch a girl that doesn't know you...even if just tapping her on the shoulder?

am I wrong here? or should I do this.

Even for example say last week...I was @ my friends unisex soccer game watching, there were many hot women there playing....there wasn't a large crouch watching or anything but when done, the hottest girl there got finished playing and came over directly to the left of me really really close to my arm and was talking to her friend looking the opposite way of where I was almost with he back turned...talking to her friend.

I wanted to say something and be like hey, that was a great goal you scored by the way, I think you play better than my boy but don't tell him I said that..but I was more so worried about sort of butting in on their convo...and possibly even if I interjected and said hey....she probably wouldn't really hear me or thinking I was even speaking to her....whats the best way to fix this problem......maybe to leave the current position I was in (toward her back, and re-approach both the girls....by coming in between them and at least this girl looking toward my way?

[Deb Auchery]

Sooooo beta

[Raoul]

I touch female pussy whenever possible.

[Spike]

(02-08-2012 05:58 AM)alchemist88 Wrote:  

Sometimes in clubs when it is very loud....and I'm trying to possibly get a girls attention, I figured it would be way too creepy or out of order to touch a girl that doesn't know you...even if just tapping her on the shoulder?

am I wrong here? or should I do this.

Even for example say last week...I was @ my friends unisex soccer game watching, there were many hot women there playing....there wasn't a large crouch watching or anything but when done, the hottest girl there got finished playing and came over directly to the left of me really really close to my arm and was talking to her friend looking the opposite way of where I was almost with he back turned...talking to her friend.

I wanted to say something and be like hey, that was a great goal you scored by the way, I think you play better than my boy but don't tell him I said that..but I was more so worried about sort of butting in on their convo...and possibly even if I interjected and said hey....she probably wouldn't really hear me or thinking I was even speaking to her....whats the best way to fix this problem......maybe to leave the current position I was in (toward her back, and re-approach both the girls....by coming in between them and at least this girl looking toward my way?

I don't think this is wrong. I tap a girl on the shoulder when she's turned away from me and the music is fucking loud. I don't care what she thinks about it. I tap her shoulder and start talking.

Your example for the football (as this sport is called) : i would speak loud and not tap her shoulder. Talk about anything but the goal she scored. That's too beta and obvious. Any guy would say the same, be different.

I break convo's when approaching, i'm not gonna wait and lurk around untill they stop talking. They're girls, they can chit chat forever.

Don't think you are loosing value because you interrupt them, you're the boss and have higher value than them. don't pedastalize them.

My two cents.

[Spike]

(02-08-2012 07:18 AM)Raoul Wrote:  

I touch female pussy whenever possible.

He"s asking for serious advice, not for numbnuts remarks.

[Raoul]

Stupid question deserves stupid answer.

(02-08-2012 07:37 AM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

(02-08-2012 07:18 AM)Raoul Wrote:  

I touch female pussy whenever possible.

He"s asking for serious advice, not for numbnuts remarks.

[MiXX]

This needs to be moved to the Newbie forum.

Here is the general rule:

It is ok to social touch a girl as long as you make it look "natural" - like a 2 second touch on the shoulder, and slowly escalate touching as you connect with her.

If you make it look awkward, like looking at your hand as you touch her...she will freak out and look at you as a creep.


Touch as if it means nothing to you, and you do not even notice you touched her.


MIxx

[Blackhawk]

I'd recommend against the TAP TAP on the top upper top of the shoulder. This area is generally used as the "Hey, you're blocking my way" place. In general taps are not an invitation to meet you, they're a "Get out of my way" message.

At dances when someone's back is to me, I use an open hand, thumb together with the fingers, and do a cup and slight squeeze with the palm on her shoulder back... er, um, hard to describe ...in that space between the deltoid and the trapezius, above her bra strap line. It's used as a holding area in some partner dances, so it's pretty recognizable as a "let's dance" invitation. They turn, I give them a smile and a nod to the dance floor, and we're together without a word.

I'll also cup my hand horizontally around the outside of her upper arm about a third of the way from the top, again with the thumb kept next to the fingers. I've even done a vertical palm, then a brush pulling her to me. Most of the time I just look in their eyes, take their hand, nod at the floor, and lead them where I will. I used to smile, I'm purposely doing that less now.

But that's very dance floor specific. You were at a stadium, with girls coming out of a soccer match. Totally different scene.

Instead of tapping her shoulder, I would suggest an "Excuse me" followed by an elderly opener. That three note "Ex-CUSE me" works pretty well at getting people to turn around.

[Chad Daring]

I prefer to lightly grab her by the arm or shoulder, not pressure just a feather touch for a couple seconds. Its authoritative. Tapping is weak.

[txbeachbum]

Gorilla game...

1. Just grab her by the arm! She'll look back and if she like what she see she will come, if not she will shake her arm loose.

2. 1-2 am in the morning in the club, everybody drunk - fuck it just smack her on the ass (always works with canadian tramps) then reference #1

[MrXY]

Touching in the right way-dominant and attractive

Not touching or touching in the wrong way- beta or just creepy

If I want a girl's attention I briefly 1-2 secs, put my hand on her elbow or forearm and give a light squeeze.

If the vibe in the place is right and I'm feeling more aggressive I will start at the shoulder.

I avoid tapping-this sends more of an "excuse me" signal rather than the "talk to me" signal I want to send

Touching a girl is a huge part of igniting attraction- it has to be done and done right

[Roosh]

At night it's okay, but not during the day.

[Vicious]

At risk of sounding like Mr. Obvious I have to add that this is something that also has to be calibrated depending on where you are in the world.

[Sebastian]

I would rather just grab her hand pull her towards me while making eye contacts, 'hey I had to meet you'
When you tap someone on their back, it can creep them out.

[soup]

Be sure that to be talking to her when you touch her. It distracts her hamster and allows you to escalate.

[Gmac]

"Hey I think you dropped something." *tap tap*

Feign seriousness and go with it, maybe even make it seem like you made a mistake. Doesn't matter what it is, pretend to pick something up or whatever and come up as you say it.