DVY and others, for more reinforcement and understanding of the way CBT thinks about these things (which is very much in line with Samseau's posts above), check out Dusty's fantastic REBT thread, and consider reading along through Albert Ellis' great (and reasonably short) book:
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-28873.html
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-28873.html
same old shit, sixes and sevens Shaft...