I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you need to let this go.
Yes, it's your job to accept that your Dad was a shithead douche, and move on. That's life. Literally so much of us have dealt with this exact problem.
My parents once grounded me for 2 years. I don't think about that at Thanksgiving.
I'd remove your presence from the household until they start treating you with the utmost amount of respect (ie: your dad calling you and asking you to come in a nice tone).
While he may have been able to treat you like shit as a youngster, you're a man now who values your self worth and will not tolerate that behavior as a tenent of basic self respect.
I'd make that clear and then work on letting it go. Try psychotherapy. If anything, do this for your Mom.
Yes, it's your job to accept that your Dad was a shithead douche, and move on. That's life. Literally so much of us have dealt with this exact problem.
My parents once grounded me for 2 years. I don't think about that at Thanksgiving.
I'd remove your presence from the household until they start treating you with the utmost amount of respect (ie: your dad calling you and asking you to come in a nice tone).
While he may have been able to treat you like shit as a youngster, you're a man now who values your self worth and will not tolerate that behavior as a tenent of basic self respect.
I'd make that clear and then work on letting it go. Try psychotherapy. If anything, do this for your Mom.