Quote: (03-10-2019 12:38 AM)Scooby6987 Wrote:
Hey guys,
I’ve been posting in the no contact thread...I’ve kept up with no contact, but I’ve found that it’s really difficult for me to approach girls at bars, on the street, etc. earlier tonight I was at a bar and I said to my friend, “I just feel like I have no swagger or mojo after dumping my gf”...it’s been two months since I broke up with my live in girlfriend of over two years and I’m still pretty broken hearted over it despite knowing logically it was for the best...
I know I sound like a bitch, but I’d rather vent on the forums then send a regrettable text. Anyone else found that after a breakup with a girl you were deeply invested in that it takes a bit of time to get back to who you were prior to the relationship? I’ve been banging old plates since the breakup and a couple new girls, so it’s not like I’ve been in a slump. It’s just hard to fully get back out there. Sorry for ranting and as always thanks to anyone who takes the time to read.
My man, you do not know how lucky you are. Sincerely. Do you know how many many men go through utter hell of getting dumped and going months or YEARS before getting ANY ass? Really, imagine that bad feeling you have now, and imagine you are totally isolated and alone, not even the remote chance of getting laid because this relationship has set you back so much physically and psychologically as a man. Or imagine you are in a small town, one that you moved too because of the relationship, and there just simply aren't any options.
I'm not saying that to completely put aside your feelings, they are real, and it hurts. But think about how fortunate you are that can bounce back, where so many other men cannot. In fact, you already are. This thread could easily been one of gratitude of how lucky you are to be in position to recover from this relationship, only requiring a relatively little amount of time and effort.
Good luck re-taking the initiative. I think you'll end up A-OK.