Quote: (01-23-2019 02:38 AM)Bienvenuto Wrote:Wow, small world regarding that company. They're the ones i'm going back to. They told me my visa is safe until October and I can re-apply for all my documents in July so it will be ready to re-apply for the visa in the autumn. I know I am lucky in the sense that I've got this company who will help me out and are pretty reliable.
I kind of felt like you were taking a long shot moving to Eastern Europe/ the Balkans..
Its the Vietnam rollercoaster writ Global. Call it the TEFL-world world-wide rollercoaster
Ive been thru exactly what you talk about recently - International western staffed Tefl school promised me 43 Million VND salary. Paid me 24 Million VND month by month..
Complained.
They said the government took in 'tax'. Bullshit.
Took them up on the issue. The British American Aussie soy boy faggots just threatened to withhold my pay. So many fantasies about giving them the hiding they deserved.
I think there is something to be said about points of failure and fall back. You weathered this because you built a reasonable fall back fund. So many people have no real financial understanding or resources. Maybe this is a financial red pill for you that means you will leave us low-energy low-output TEFL teachers living like middle aged frat boys behind you in your wake as you set about making this set-back a set-up for your financial future and you start building toward financial independence.
So many things go wrong.
I say this not to shame you or one up you but rather 'there but for the grace of god go I..'. My fucking moped key fell out of the ignition driving along at 40mph the other day. tiny little thing. only one I had. went back and it somehow stood out to the naked eye on the side of the dusty road.
Water supply fucked up in my house. Neighbours opposite me are racist 'young buffalo' gang members that yell fuck you! every time they see me. I almost got in a fight with them the other day. No matter what happened I would have ended up battered.
This morning I just posted on the forum that I was run out of town by an armed gang in a local village when I turned up to pick up my coffee date.
The reason why I felt pretty relaxed about it was I survived a hands on attempt to kill me by several people once.
That fucked up my life for years after. But made it easier to weather this little incident.
The impression I got is that you worked for a school called (acronym) rhymes with CIA. I went out to Vietnam to work for them without any notarised docs and they waited for me to get mine sent home and done. Pretty flexible.
I know a notary that I can do it for you by post. I'll PM you the details.
It happens mate. I ended up broke and shafted in a hick town with no friends surrounded by racists and locals that laughed in my face. I googled how to commit suicide for the first time in years and years. The mind proliferates and goes on a downward spiral on the back of even tiny things. At least it can for me..
I posted before about a flat mate from hell that I lived with.. very needy ex-boxer. I updated the thread recently saying that we had both gone on to better things.
This week I found out he'd had a stroke. Spoke to his Mum. He's in a Viet hospital in his thirties with his memory gone. Keeps thinking that a long gone ex-girlfriend should be coming to visit him..
I knew I was overdoing my own suffering compared to that but it took this morning's brush with reality to wake me up to it.
You're not alone. You're not the only one going through this by any stretch.
The others are right, it will pass..
But..
The trick is to achieve what you want to make happen whilst all that time is passing.
Sorry about your mate who had a stroke - that and paralysis are two of my biggest fears.
As to suicide - I guess most of us have considered it at some point. My solution was to take sleeping pills on a freezing mountain and just never wake up (don't want to cause a mess jumping off a roof or end up a cabbage with a fucked up overdose).
Feel free to send me that pm btw - although I have seen a company online who notarise and then send the document to the Vietnamese embassy for 150 pounds so that seems a fair deal.