[Batman_]

I share your frustrations here. As you pointed out, the whole purpose of a date is to get to know someone. And if you spend a bunch of time messaging back and forth beforehand, it will remove some of the fun and mystery of a first date. Furthermore, it's a huge investment to sink all of your time into messaging a girl when you don't even know if she'll actually ever agree to meet up. I tend to keep texting to a bare minimum even after its a regular thing. I might sent a few witty texts here and there and catch up briefly but otherwise I keep it to logistics.

If I ask a girl out and she says she wants to get to know me more, I usually next them. No reason to waste your time with someone who is that indecisive and naive. And it's likely that they simply want you orbit them until they can determine the highest quality dick that is available to them.

I also hate this because people often build a persona, whether intentional or not, through online/texting, which can lead to a lot of frustration on both accounts when you realize you're not a good match in person.

Lastly, just because a girl seemingly takes interest in your life and texts you a lot, it doesn't actually mean she's attracted to you. Many girls are so addicted to their phone that they constantly need to be talking to people, even if they're not interested in them.

I would say something like "hey i'm free later this week, lets grab a drink", and if she says no and doesn't provide any alternatives, then next her.