So i have this girl constantly messaging me. It's every night, she initiates a conversation. The story behind her is she's cute and i met her through cold approach. I always go for the number close because i don't do the social media shit. So i tried my best to keep texting to a minimum, to work out logistics - set up the date etc. And we decided on a date.
A few days later what i think might have happened is she got a little insecure. Who's this guy? How can he just come out of nowhere with no facebook, no instagram, no social circle and swoop me off the floor? Honestly not to brag but i do think this is what went through her mind, because she asked if we could move the date a whole week so she could get to learn me better first. Also she kept asking if i knew X and Y and tried to find a mutual friend she could connect me to, but no luck.
In my mind i thought: "??? isn't that what dates are for, to get to learn another person you don't know?". Anyway i said okay and now she's texting me every day trying to get to know me better, i guess build trust because she said she doesn't trust many guys, she needs to feel safe to jump into things. Which is bearable because she's an 8/10. The problem is, she asked for my snapchat and i didn't want to seem weird/suspicious so i gave it to her, to chat a bit send her videoes showing im just a normal guy. To up the trust.
Now she keeps texting me and 1. i don't want to turn into a texting buddy 2. she takes all the fun away from the date and the conversation you can have if you ask everything over the phone which she's currently doing 3. i can't be bothered to snap back and forth like a teenage boy and im sure if i open her messages and stop responding she will think i lost the interest and the connection slowly die out
I know for a fact she's interested because she seems to take great interest in what i do and what i spend my time on. She's warm and curious to know more about me. But what should i do in the meantime to survive the week until the date itself where i can showcase myself better? Im tired of texting her everything about me.
One thing i thought about doing is straight up telling her "cancel all your plans tomorrow night, we're going out" and see how she reacts and end this text game.
A few days later what i think might have happened is she got a little insecure. Who's this guy? How can he just come out of nowhere with no facebook, no instagram, no social circle and swoop me off the floor? Honestly not to brag but i do think this is what went through her mind, because she asked if we could move the date a whole week so she could get to learn me better first. Also she kept asking if i knew X and Y and tried to find a mutual friend she could connect me to, but no luck.
In my mind i thought: "??? isn't that what dates are for, to get to learn another person you don't know?". Anyway i said okay and now she's texting me every day trying to get to know me better, i guess build trust because she said she doesn't trust many guys, she needs to feel safe to jump into things. Which is bearable because she's an 8/10. The problem is, she asked for my snapchat and i didn't want to seem weird/suspicious so i gave it to her, to chat a bit send her videoes showing im just a normal guy. To up the trust.
Now she keeps texting me and 1. i don't want to turn into a texting buddy 2. she takes all the fun away from the date and the conversation you can have if you ask everything over the phone which she's currently doing 3. i can't be bothered to snap back and forth like a teenage boy and im sure if i open her messages and stop responding she will think i lost the interest and the connection slowly die out
I know for a fact she's interested because she seems to take great interest in what i do and what i spend my time on. She's warm and curious to know more about me. But what should i do in the meantime to survive the week until the date itself where i can showcase myself better? Im tired of texting her everything about me.
One thing i thought about doing is straight up telling her "cancel all your plans tomorrow night, we're going out" and see how she reacts and end this text game.