[Fortis]

(11-19-2018 02:48 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(11-17-2018 12:27 AM)Fortis Wrote:  

Another friend of mine said that it is an issue of quality and that I should strike at higher quality chicks, but for me it's more of a spiritual thing. Endlessly trying for higher quality doesn't really address the fundamental issue I keep hitting which is that I'm no longer in it because it's fun. The days of dressing up and being nervous for dates are over. I now feel like I'm sort of a robot. I have my game plan, I execute that gameplan, I pull or don't pull and I repeat.

Fortis I can relate, for awhile dates were the same game plan and execution to bang.

I definitely hit a plateau for awhile, so I cut mediocre dates short, I flaked more often, I deleted numbers, and moved on fast.

What changed is being more emotionally available to women and in turn it's made my dates more fun, gone into deeper conversations I don't think I'd ever usually go into (not political/sexual history/or religion).

I went on less dates, but the quality was higher, only catch 22 is you might get disappointed when you've invested into something and burns you, but I'd rather "feel" something than be a robot.

Hence where I'm at right now with actually being interested in a steady girlfriend, but the obvious elephant in the room is that I'm "unplugged", I've got plates, and I'm so used to not being monogamous.

I was never monogamous when in my last few relationships. I fucked around the side, yet my emotions/love were for that one main girl at the time.

So now I'm trying to figure out where I want to go, as there are more important and pressing things in life than women.

Thanks Deb and Kaotic.

Yeah, I've been moving in that direction too. I've slowly been cutting all the alcohol dates and been bringing chicks rock climbing or something else. I'm just over a lot of the basic shit.

It's a bit funny because I'm on TRT and have a healthy sex drive but my hatred of boredom outstrips my sex drive 99% of the time when it comes to talking to a boring ass chick. I"m not expecting to be wow'd with Kant quotes and shit, but sometimes I can just take a look at a chick and be like "unless we're fucking immediately, I'm not even bothering trying to bang you."

I don't mean to sound lazy, but unless I'm genuinely interested in meeting a girl, I just next.