Women aren't judged to lose value when they submit to others, if anything they gain value in doing so. The girl acting dumb or asking some dude they wanna bone for 'help' with an easy task. They will manipulate their own character to best suit what they think other people want. Thats why girls seem to dress up in different personas throughout life; usually influenced by whatever narrative of guy they feel hot for in a given environment. 'They don't want to win, they want a winner' - so they adapt behaviour to be complementary to what the 'winner' wants.
While women may be the choosers, its up to men to set the standard - because women don't know what they're attracted to. Because fundamentally they don't know what it takes to be a successful man. For men to influence others they either must do so by force, logic or competency. Men work hard to earn their value and must adopt fixed principles to be successful because we deal with 'the real world' - AKA competition from other men.
While women may be the choosers, its up to men to set the standard - because women don't know what they're attracted to. Because fundamentally they don't know what it takes to be a successful man. For men to influence others they either must do so by force, logic or competency. Men work hard to earn their value and must adopt fixed principles to be successful because we deal with 'the real world' - AKA competition from other men.