There's being honest, and there's being charmless, and there's also being a blabber mouth.
I'm always honest about what I stand for. I may not lead the interaction with "hey guess what I love President Donald Trump and I think women should stay at home and not have a career" but I never say anything that goes against what I believe in. However, when dealing with women, I coat everything in playfulness and charm, not being autistic and argumentative. Women are not men, we don't talk to them in the same way we talk to a guy.
Honesty to me is also not running your mouth on all your pet topics (especially politics and social commentaries) all the time. That's charmless and silly. I once told my wife that I am an open book, it just takes great intelligence to read me, and if you read then ask sincere questions, I will always answer honestly. I'm a man, not a gossipy woman, I don't vomit out all information on first dates. I listen, and I listen well, I add comments to encourage women to talk more, because they end up telling me everything I need to know about them, and they also think I'm awesome because I let them talk about their most favourite topic.
One of my earliest Game memories as a young guy was walking up to a table of chatty vegetarian girls wearing the Maddox's For Every Animal You Don't Eat, I'm Gonna Eat Three t-shirt and a massive grin, asking one of them to dance with me. I ended up dating that girl for a short while too. She was so obsessed with me that she tried to find herself another Asian guy and dress him up just like the way I do, except obviously he turned out to be a complete pussy under her thumb.
One Swedish girl I dated could never get me to agree with her that men and women are equal. She was frustrated about that but also couldn't help but laugh because the way I worded my objections was always humourous. Last time she visited my city, she really wanted to catch up and pulled out all the stops, but I was already with my wife and turned her down.
With my wife, on our third date, we talked about how it is Biblical that men should lead women, just like in dancing, and any other way wouldn't work. It was a very important conversation that led me to seriously consider her as marriage material. I was on the Trump train straight away and I told her (girlfriend then) to look up to Melania as a role model, which she did, and still does.
I live in a very socialist city. The vast majority of girls I've ever met and dated think that I'm sexist, a little racist, somewhat homophobic, very anti-feminist and a whole lot of other things they officially disapprove of, but they think I'm also charming and the most interesting guy they've met. Deep down they know that I may poke fun at their silly socialist leanings and don't take their ideologies seriously, but I love their woman nature and women love a man who holds his frame and treats them like little girls. Women are very sensitive to that, just like they can sniff it out if a guy agrees with all of their ideologies but secretly is frustrated because he can't get laid and hates women (aka all male feminists).
I'm Asian, 5'7" or 5'6" after squatting, hairy, muscular but not abs poppin' everywhere, don't have huge social circles because I'm an introvert. Yet the thought that I had to censor myself in a certain way because the chick could replace me with 100s of other guys straight away never crossed my mind, because I know she couldn't. You can chalk that down to irrational self confidence, but I really do not care about that one bit, and I know the girl would always miss my presence in her life when I'm out. You either truly believe in your self worth, or you don't. She will believe whatever you believe in.
I don't subscribe to this "letting your guard down once you've slept with the girl". I'm always strong, always a rock for the woman to lean on. It's many times more important when you are in a serious relationship or marriage. It is the man's role to be strong, if you have weaknesses you should work on them. If you need to confess some failings or emotional vulnerabilities, go talk to another trusted man and solve it. Don't lean on your woman to solve your problems for you.
I'm always honest about what I stand for. I may not lead the interaction with "hey guess what I love President Donald Trump and I think women should stay at home and not have a career" but I never say anything that goes against what I believe in. However, when dealing with women, I coat everything in playfulness and charm, not being autistic and argumentative. Women are not men, we don't talk to them in the same way we talk to a guy.
Honesty to me is also not running your mouth on all your pet topics (especially politics and social commentaries) all the time. That's charmless and silly. I once told my wife that I am an open book, it just takes great intelligence to read me, and if you read then ask sincere questions, I will always answer honestly. I'm a man, not a gossipy woman, I don't vomit out all information on first dates. I listen, and I listen well, I add comments to encourage women to talk more, because they end up telling me everything I need to know about them, and they also think I'm awesome because I let them talk about their most favourite topic.
One of my earliest Game memories as a young guy was walking up to a table of chatty vegetarian girls wearing the Maddox's For Every Animal You Don't Eat, I'm Gonna Eat Three t-shirt and a massive grin, asking one of them to dance with me. I ended up dating that girl for a short while too. She was so obsessed with me that she tried to find herself another Asian guy and dress him up just like the way I do, except obviously he turned out to be a complete pussy under her thumb.
One Swedish girl I dated could never get me to agree with her that men and women are equal. She was frustrated about that but also couldn't help but laugh because the way I worded my objections was always humourous. Last time she visited my city, she really wanted to catch up and pulled out all the stops, but I was already with my wife and turned her down.
With my wife, on our third date, we talked about how it is Biblical that men should lead women, just like in dancing, and any other way wouldn't work. It was a very important conversation that led me to seriously consider her as marriage material. I was on the Trump train straight away and I told her (girlfriend then) to look up to Melania as a role model, which she did, and still does.
I live in a very socialist city. The vast majority of girls I've ever met and dated think that I'm sexist, a little racist, somewhat homophobic, very anti-feminist and a whole lot of other things they officially disapprove of, but they think I'm also charming and the most interesting guy they've met. Deep down they know that I may poke fun at their silly socialist leanings and don't take their ideologies seriously, but I love their woman nature and women love a man who holds his frame and treats them like little girls. Women are very sensitive to that, just like they can sniff it out if a guy agrees with all of their ideologies but secretly is frustrated because he can't get laid and hates women (aka all male feminists).
I'm Asian, 5'7" or 5'6" after squatting, hairy, muscular but not abs poppin' everywhere, don't have huge social circles because I'm an introvert. Yet the thought that I had to censor myself in a certain way because the chick could replace me with 100s of other guys straight away never crossed my mind, because I know she couldn't. You can chalk that down to irrational self confidence, but I really do not care about that one bit, and I know the girl would always miss my presence in her life when I'm out. You either truly believe in your self worth, or you don't. She will believe whatever you believe in.
I don't subscribe to this "letting your guard down once you've slept with the girl". I'm always strong, always a rock for the woman to lean on. It's many times more important when you are in a serious relationship or marriage. It is the man's role to be strong, if you have weaknesses you should work on them. If you need to confess some failings or emotional vulnerabilities, go talk to another trusted man and solve it. Don't lean on your woman to solve your problems for you.