Quote: (10-07-2018 04:11 PM)roc_student Wrote:
So me and this girl have some mutual friends, and we go to the same school. I'm 26, she's 21. It's our first date, at a cocktail bar.
We sit next to each other on a couch in the bar.
Conversation goes great, lots of laughing, sexual jokes. She asks me where I live, I say a few blocks away, she says "how convenient" with a smile. She walked here, she didn't drive here.
So far so good.
About 30m in, I shift my seating so that my leg is lightly touching hers, she shifts her seating so that it's NOT touching. First red flag.
I do some light arm touching and leg touching during shared moments of laughter. She doesn't reciprocate. Second red flag.
At the 90-minute mark, I suggest we leave the cocktail bar and walk back to my place, she immediately smiles and says yes. Green light.
Back at my place, we talk for a while, I start touching/playing with her hair, she asks why are you doing that (red flag? no girl's ever had a problem with this before), I say because it feels good. I go in for a kiss and she doesn't pull away. She maintains eye contact, smiles, she pulls in for more kissing. Green light.
But her kissing is WEIRD. Little short pecks, with no tongue at all. At first I think it will pass, but it doesn't. She continues her little reserved pecks. Also, her hands are immobile. I'm kissing her neck, nibbling her ear a bit. She's not responding. Only chick to not moan, shudder, or reciprocate to that move. She's sitting there with her arms at her sides, all awkward.
We talk more, kiss more. She's smiling, saying how much she likes me. But continues to be really closed off physically.
I don't escalate more, because I feel she's not ready for that, it could backfire. I explore her with my hands a bit, but get no positive response/reciprocation from her, so I just leave it.
She takes an Uber back, and immediately sends me the classic follow-up text, " I had a nice time tonight"
She was definitely feeling my personality and didn't seem like a sexually conservative girl. I mean, she told a story about her period, Russian Jewish American.
And yet she seems like a massive starfish.
Is it really that simple? She's just a goddamn starfish and always has been?
Or did I fuck up somewhere?
And guys, please, I know this post is about just one girl, but it's a CASE STUDY and I want to learn so I can be better next time, with the next girl. So I really don't need you to give me shit about one-itis, or how I should move on.
Thanks
Damn, I'm dating too many hoes if I don't have these problems!!!!
Anyways, its highly plausible in today's world that every guy she's has met has not mentioned anything about her kissing no matter how awful it is.
You don't have to tell her it awful, but if you actually like her, then teach her how to kiss you properly. Next time she pecks you, be like "GIVE ME A REAL KISS WOMAN!!!!". Just kidding on the quote but hopefully you get the point.