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(10-03-2018 05:42 PM)DarkTriad Wrote:  

That makes sense...but in reality, Bible Belt girls have the same divorce rates as other Western women.

One of the problems with this is: what are you comparing it to? The divorce rate in Alabama is double that of New York, where nearly half pregnancies are aborted and the number of people who get married is much lower. So those who do get married are, lets say, naturally more conservative on the whole.

If I remember correctly, only about 20% of Democrats now marry, compared to about 80% of Republicans. Those Democrats who do marry must be quite convinced to go against the grain.

If you look at where divorce rates are lower (red outline):



As far as I'm concerned what makes the divorce rates lower in those countries is the culture (other people) not the individual. There's one image that shows the power of close-knit social groups on stopping divorce:



Most people behave in a largely reactionary way, being channeled and reacting to what's around them. This includes all these church goers. They are suppressing certain impulses, which means they don't control them.

A marriage is more likely to last if both parties have deeper reasons as to why they are married, beyond attraction, feeling good and the expectations of their peers. As attraction, feeling good and tradition fade so do the reasons to not pull out divorce rape.

The last point is that getting something you want usually comes along with things that you (really) don't want.

Humans have been evolving for a long time to raise families, to the extent that children can't support themselves in the world until they are older than most animals live. Those who didn't have that desire have left the gene pool.

As you hit about 40, the way society is and has been structured for a long time, the real jealousy inducing attribute is the appearance of good, happy family. This is particularly true of women, who have a much stronger nesting desire for evolutionary reasons. And this is why so many women would prefer to steal to top-tier (tested) husband than select a fresh bachelor.

The opposite side of this is that you can't really have a good, happy family (relatively speaking) if you want to continue the game. The hours you should be putting into getting paid and manning up little Johnny will be put into maintaining side pieces. And while you're not around, the wife will be banging the lawyer who rolls the whole thing up around your neck.

In life, the things that people want the most are those which are the hardest to obtain. Most satisfaction is derived in the constant pursuit of what you want. As soon as you have it, it becomes the new normal. And in the case of banging lots of women the repeated thrill of the chase leading to the new normal leaves you jaded. As you get the older the reality is you're zig-zagging down hill.

And as getting something you want involves getting something else you don't want, you gain bangs at the expense of notches on your lifespan, which you could be using to get things which satisfy you more.

The reason why having a top-tier family is the most rewarding is because it's so difficult and it doesn't end until you do. There aren't many people who will be prepared to give up all needed to do it and get all the required areas of their life in order. Most people aren't prepared for the patience, the giving up of time and other things you want to make it work better than it does for most other people. And that's why it's so rewarding. More effort + more difficult + more time = rare = highly desirable. It just doesn't seem that way as we've been so wired to look at more superficial attributes as desirable.

Getting something you don't want in life increases the chances of also getting something you really don't want. There are a lot of guys who recommend getting married and keep 3-4 girls on the side per year. These are two things that don't really go together so well. Do that and the chances of divorce rape are going up. You just can't have it all.

It's true in other areas of life:

For a woman, the more desirable her husband is, the more likely he will go on banging.
The more you push your body to peak condition, the more likely it is to break down in arthritis etc in old age.
The more you eat, the fatter you get.

You install a shitposter as President of the United States, you will unleash a deluge of liberal butthurt.

Oh, I guess with some things you do get everything you want.