Papaya Tapper, I see it very clearly. The truth of your analysis is very plain. I just do not understand the mechanics of its implementation.
If it were so easy as to not respond a few days it would be easy. But that is not enough, I have done the no contact many times, for many days, more than two. A week once. She just cares less always.
Even now, we regained normality, but she again is telling me after a few exchanges she decided not to see me. Then messages me in the middle of the night to ask how my breakfast was. And when you think she is being docile again, she turns around and says I annoy her. Like I said, I have many times tried dread on her, but she knows very well how deeply I care, I made the mistake to show that. That is why she blew off my ultimatum, she knew I would not walk away.
I actually broke up with her once for real, it worked then, because it was real, she started pursuing me again. But as soon as I gave her a second chance it was back to her disprectful behaviour.
I can do the dread, the no contact, but something is going wrong in the inbetween everyday interactions. I wish I knew what it was.
The power of walking away, I will practice it more now. I realise it is all I have. But I think there has to be more to it, like you said the inter-personal dynamics, somehow to cement the effect of the dread. It seems to evaporate so quickly with this girl. She has all her life had no problem to hook high quality guys, in short periods of time through online, and though I bring more to the table than anyone else has, deep down she must think she could easily do it again, find someone.
This is why the Sinatra story was so interesting to me, it seemed to mirror my own life in a blown up way, I am battling with my own Ava at the moment.
The joke is, I actually have options. But for some reason this particular girl has me like in a vice grip of attraction. I don't trust her, I feel like in an LTR she would present many problems, the disrespect is through the roof, the moods have me doubting her mental health, and yet, yet, for some reason....she's the most attractive woman I've ever come across...
If it were so easy as to not respond a few days it would be easy. But that is not enough, I have done the no contact many times, for many days, more than two. A week once. She just cares less always.
Even now, we regained normality, but she again is telling me after a few exchanges she decided not to see me. Then messages me in the middle of the night to ask how my breakfast was. And when you think she is being docile again, she turns around and says I annoy her. Like I said, I have many times tried dread on her, but she knows very well how deeply I care, I made the mistake to show that. That is why she blew off my ultimatum, she knew I would not walk away.
I actually broke up with her once for real, it worked then, because it was real, she started pursuing me again. But as soon as I gave her a second chance it was back to her disprectful behaviour.
I can do the dread, the no contact, but something is going wrong in the inbetween everyday interactions. I wish I knew what it was.
The power of walking away, I will practice it more now. I realise it is all I have. But I think there has to be more to it, like you said the inter-personal dynamics, somehow to cement the effect of the dread. It seems to evaporate so quickly with this girl. She has all her life had no problem to hook high quality guys, in short periods of time through online, and though I bring more to the table than anyone else has, deep down she must think she could easily do it again, find someone.
This is why the Sinatra story was so interesting to me, it seemed to mirror my own life in a blown up way, I am battling with my own Ava at the moment.
The joke is, I actually have options. But for some reason this particular girl has me like in a vice grip of attraction. I don't trust her, I feel like in an LTR she would present many problems, the disrespect is through the roof, the moods have me doubting her mental health, and yet, yet, for some reason....she's the most attractive woman I've ever come across...