So continuing the research on the Sinatra Ava story with Lee Server's bio on Ava Gardner some more details of this fell into place.
Turns out that Ava and Frank were constantly jealous of each other because they had to be apart all the time, because of their careers.
So effectively they had a long distance relationship for some time. And because both constantly thought the other was cheating on them this led to great friction.
Ava was the first to cheat during filming of a movie in Spain. After that Frank obviously became ever more jealous. However, Ava was the same way, Frank was notorious for bedding women after all. Then one day, Frank actually called Ava while in bed with another woman and told her 'Since I'm always accused of cheating I may as well reap the benefits and do it'. That was the end for Ava, who subsequently filed for divorce.
The amazing thing was that after Ava had many many affairs with countless men, for years after that, when Ava was approaching 40, Frank and her decided to try one more time. Neither then cared anymore that the other had plenty of affairs. It failed because Frank wanted to impose his frame, and forced Ava to go to a meeting with a notorious mobster. Ava hated gangsters. They had a huge argument and Ava simply left yet again.
So what does one make of this? When Sinatra was financially in trouble with his career going badly and he was extremely jelaous Ava lost attraction, she cheated on him. In turn Sinatra cheated as well and rubbed it in Ava's face, which caused her to divorce. Then Sinatra's fortunes revived he became an even bigger star and fabulously rich. But it still was not enough. Ava still wanted to impose her frame on his, even though Sinatra held frame and forced her to meet with Sam Giacana, the mobster she hated.
So how does hypergamy fit this narrative? Ava Gardner could have been with a fabulously wealthy Sinatra. But instead decided not to, after they tried again, because she had a big argument with Sinatra about mobsters. Hypergamy does not seem to fit this narrative. Ava rather appeared to drift away because Sinatra insisted she come to dinners with gangsters and they had an argument about it.
Equally Ava Gardner could have married the richest man in the world, Howard Hughes, but opted not to. Instead she bedded obscure Italians, secretaries, black musicians, AFTER she hit the wall.
Her life seems to exemplify how a woman will go wrong without the direction of a male. Her drunk promiscuity was off the charts. She was banned from restaurants and hotels.
But if that male tries to impose that direction too harshly, like Sinatra did when he forced her to meet the mobster Sam Giacana, that too did not work. Despite now being fabulously wealth, having lots of women after him and showing his love for Ava Gardner many times over, one harsh argument and she walked away.
Neither hypergamy nor frame narratives seem to fit this story neatly.
Turns out that Ava and Frank were constantly jealous of each other because they had to be apart all the time, because of their careers.
So effectively they had a long distance relationship for some time. And because both constantly thought the other was cheating on them this led to great friction.
Ava was the first to cheat during filming of a movie in Spain. After that Frank obviously became ever more jealous. However, Ava was the same way, Frank was notorious for bedding women after all. Then one day, Frank actually called Ava while in bed with another woman and told her 'Since I'm always accused of cheating I may as well reap the benefits and do it'. That was the end for Ava, who subsequently filed for divorce.
The amazing thing was that after Ava had many many affairs with countless men, for years after that, when Ava was approaching 40, Frank and her decided to try one more time. Neither then cared anymore that the other had plenty of affairs. It failed because Frank wanted to impose his frame, and forced Ava to go to a meeting with a notorious mobster. Ava hated gangsters. They had a huge argument and Ava simply left yet again.
So what does one make of this? When Sinatra was financially in trouble with his career going badly and he was extremely jelaous Ava lost attraction, she cheated on him. In turn Sinatra cheated as well and rubbed it in Ava's face, which caused her to divorce. Then Sinatra's fortunes revived he became an even bigger star and fabulously rich. But it still was not enough. Ava still wanted to impose her frame on his, even though Sinatra held frame and forced her to meet with Sam Giacana, the mobster she hated.
So how does hypergamy fit this narrative? Ava Gardner could have been with a fabulously wealthy Sinatra. But instead decided not to, after they tried again, because she had a big argument with Sinatra about mobsters. Hypergamy does not seem to fit this narrative. Ava rather appeared to drift away because Sinatra insisted she come to dinners with gangsters and they had an argument about it.
Equally Ava Gardner could have married the richest man in the world, Howard Hughes, but opted not to. Instead she bedded obscure Italians, secretaries, black musicians, AFTER she hit the wall.
Her life seems to exemplify how a woman will go wrong without the direction of a male. Her drunk promiscuity was off the charts. She was banned from restaurants and hotels.
But if that male tries to impose that direction too harshly, like Sinatra did when he forced her to meet the mobster Sam Giacana, that too did not work. Despite now being fabulously wealth, having lots of women after him and showing his love for Ava Gardner many times over, one harsh argument and she walked away.
Neither hypergamy nor frame narratives seem to fit this story neatly.