Quote: (06-20-2018 12:28 AM)Roardog Wrote:
I agree with what you're saying that it could be the reality and you don't really know, so her sleeping or not sleeping with you on the first date really tells you more about your game than it does about her.
However, as pointed out by Tactician, it's how it feels from an evolutionary biology perspective. How your "caveman brain" reacts to it.
When a girl sleeps with you on the first date it feels probable that she has done this many times before. Thus devaluing her mate potential in your caveman brain.
When a girl doesn't sleep with you on the first date and instead makes you wait until the 2nd, 3rd, 4th or whatever date, it feels like she is not a slut who just sleeps with anyone. So her mate potential is maintained/raised in your caveman brain.
As you say, this may not reflect the reality. You may just not have had good enough game to get her on the first date but a tonne of other guys have before you. Or she could be a reformed party girl and you're just the first schmuck to be subjected to her arbitrary "no more sex on the first date" rule.
Your caveman brain doesn't take any of that into consideration, it just takes the present events and translates that into a feeling of attraction or not.
And this is why you should get to know a girl for a longer time (several months to a year) before you commit to her. Because all those questions about whether she is a reformed party girl or some sloot who just had you wait until the 5th date (but have had one night stands in the past) will reveal themselves.
So just because she holds off sex for months with you doesn't mean she's necessarily LTR material. Nobody has said this. On the other hand, if she gives it up on the first night, that probably means for sure she isn't (with some exceptions, I think).
Finding a good LTR prospect takes time and there are a lot of tests they'll have to pass along the way.