I believe my current blockade is one that is ironic. My chivalry. I grew up in a single mother household with my grandfather being sort of my father figure for some of my childhood. I was raised to respect women and to be decent to them. Open the door for them, kiss the back of their hands, pay for their meals. But something changed and at first I was wondering why women were taking what we do for granted when we're putting them in dresses and taking them out to places. After some intense studying, I came to realize that a culture shift changed...and it was women who did it, funnily enough.
My question is: why did women want chivalry dead and how do I transform my definition of it to a version that works today? Everytime I go out, I'm thinking I'm being the nice guy, but I get so many signals that there's something else a woman wants from me and it's not me being nice. Of course, I'm aware of the rules of touching, ramping up, but women are not logical creatures, and they have double standards that make you misread them all the time.
Is Dave Chapelle right? I know this is an overloaded question, but these are just the thoughts of someone still young.
My question is: why did women want chivalry dead and how do I transform my definition of it to a version that works today? Everytime I go out, I'm thinking I'm being the nice guy, but I get so many signals that there's something else a woman wants from me and it's not me being nice. Of course, I'm aware of the rules of touching, ramping up, but women are not logical creatures, and they have double standards that make you misread them all the time.
Is Dave Chapelle right? I know this is an overloaded question, but these are just the thoughts of someone still young.