Quote: (06-22-2017 06:39 AM)Noir Wrote:
From her perspective, she broke a milestone with you. You are what she waited for, what she trusts in, the man who she wakes up and thinks about, last thought at night etc.
A lot of men felt the same way toward the first woman they loved, who ultimately dumped them! I was reading the RationalWiki article on divorce, which I think sheds some light on modern culturally accepted norms of behavior:
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High divorce rates are nothing more than the result of a civilization recognizing the freedom of its people to create and end relationships as they see fit. Doing so ensures that incompatible relationships are not mandated to continue and people are permitted to find someone they are actually happy with rather than being miserable for the rest of their lives.
Don't women pretty ruthlessly dump men as soon as they decide that would be in their best interests? And after they do so, they aren't even content to merely ghost; rather, they will often try to twist the knife (e.g. via social media, if he's blue pill enough to be on there) to get the man to beg her to come back. That way, she can look at him as a loser and feel confident in her decision to leave.
Women are not the only ones who get hurt and become bitter; men too are capable of being wounded when they fall in love and get betrayed. The only difference is, society views dumped women as victims, while dumped men are considered simply pathetic if they can't get over it. Women always have the prerogative to change their minds, while men must be resolute.
Women say they want equality, so maybe we should just give it to them, by allowing men to have the same freedom to dump women on a whim, without any fear of social stigma. Just like the woman who breaks up her family is given every accommodation and benefit of the doubt by society, we should call the man who pumps and dumps a virgin "strong," "independent," "empowered," etc. because he cast aside any outdated views on how members of his gender should behave toward the opposite sex. If she tries to call him up or message him by social media, rather than respecting his wish to be left alone, he should be able to get a restraining order and have her thrown in jail if she doesn't stop stalking him, since that's controlling, abusive behavior.
Alternatively, we can go back to a patriarchal order in which men are required to marry the women they deflower, and in return women are required to stay with those men and raise their kids together with them. Till women are compelled to behave in a ladylike way, though, what is the point of our behaving like gentlemen? When men are pushovers like that, and accept female dominance in that way, it causes women to lose respect. We fail the shit test.
I know it's lame to be an MRA who argues that women should be held to the same standards as men (since women have their role to play, and we have ours), so therefore I will just say that we need to revive and rehabilitate the institution of marriage, which was designed to deal with this kind of situation in a very simple and expedient way. It's like Beyoncé says: if she liked him, she shoulda put a ring on him!