Ok, so this seems to be a general pattern now. Over the last several months, I had a string of girls who I pulled home on 1st / 2nd date, (either from daygame or Tinder). I make conversation, make out, escalate...and encounter resistance sooner or later. Eventually they leave, and I don't see them again. They either flake for the future date, just vanish, or say something like "I believe we are looking for different things".
I tried different escalation approaches when I encounter resistance:
1. Pulling back, chilling for a bit and the escalating again
2. Trying to convey my views on sex, that I won't judge them, everyone liked pleasure etc
Both methods don't work. I should note that this is persistently the case with HOTTER girls, more average ones I fuck with little, if any, resistance - but why even bother with them in the first place. I am not sure what I can change here. A couple of thing spring to mind:
1. She is attracted physically to me, but not enough (hence the reason why I easily fuck less attractive girls, who know I am out of their league).
2. I am not masculine enough in my interaction. By this I mean not direct / dominant enough to turn them on and have them give in to me; maybe I come more across as a romantic gentle guy rather than a hardcore sexual guy. I suppose the hotter the chick, the more dominant guy she generally wants, right?
I suspect it's the 2nd one. An example. I pulled a chick home from a first date today. Encountered very minor resistance when taking her home already. I made out with her a few times, got touchy feely with her despite some resistance from her. Eventually she got up and walked out of my apartment. In the corridor, I teased her a bit, then escalated once more, grabbed her, turned her around and pulled her ass into my crotch area, while nibbling on her ear. "This is exciting me" she said...but then still prevented me from taking it further. When walking out of my building, I escalated again. Again, she said "this is exciting", to which I replied something like "yeah, we'd better turn back to continue then". She answered "I can take care of the excitement on my own when I get home..." Then she shut down my further escalation, and left.
So what could I have done there? Been more dominant / sexual from the start?
I should note that as far as I remember, virtually all girls with a few exceptions, who I fucked QUICKLY were the ones that were totally compliant with my actions from start to finish. I'd get virtually no resistance from them whatsoever whenever escalating / changing venue, and so on.
I tried different escalation approaches when I encounter resistance:
1. Pulling back, chilling for a bit and the escalating again
2. Trying to convey my views on sex, that I won't judge them, everyone liked pleasure etc
Both methods don't work. I should note that this is persistently the case with HOTTER girls, more average ones I fuck with little, if any, resistance - but why even bother with them in the first place. I am not sure what I can change here. A couple of thing spring to mind:
1. She is attracted physically to me, but not enough (hence the reason why I easily fuck less attractive girls, who know I am out of their league).
2. I am not masculine enough in my interaction. By this I mean not direct / dominant enough to turn them on and have them give in to me; maybe I come more across as a romantic gentle guy rather than a hardcore sexual guy. I suppose the hotter the chick, the more dominant guy she generally wants, right?
I suspect it's the 2nd one. An example. I pulled a chick home from a first date today. Encountered very minor resistance when taking her home already. I made out with her a few times, got touchy feely with her despite some resistance from her. Eventually she got up and walked out of my apartment. In the corridor, I teased her a bit, then escalated once more, grabbed her, turned her around and pulled her ass into my crotch area, while nibbling on her ear. "This is exciting me" she said...but then still prevented me from taking it further. When walking out of my building, I escalated again. Again, she said "this is exciting", to which I replied something like "yeah, we'd better turn back to continue then". She answered "I can take care of the excitement on my own when I get home..." Then she shut down my further escalation, and left.
So what could I have done there? Been more dominant / sexual from the start?
I should note that as far as I remember, virtually all girls with a few exceptions, who I fucked QUICKLY were the ones that were totally compliant with my actions from start to finish. I'd get virtually no resistance from them whatsoever whenever escalating / changing venue, and so on.