Quote: (04-12-2017 04:05 PM)Zona Wrote:
Quote: (04-11-2017 08:45 PM)The Beast1 Wrote:
People on this site rag about Los Angeles and how terrible and fake it is. In my experience, people here have been astoundingly friendly. I'm married, but women have been very receptive to me. When I was here last, my experience was roughly the same. I never understood the fakeness claim and I think people who make this claim are projecting something. People are always friendly to me even though I may not see them again.
To each their own. Fly out and spend a week or two and see what it is like.
Personally, weather is probably the most important aspect of a city and Miami has it in spades.
Friendly =/= genuine. It's true that people are friendly in LA, but those friendly people often tend to be flaky and insincere. It can be very difficult to forge deeper connections with people, even if they're superficially pleasant. They might be laid back and nice to your face, but that doesn't mean that they actually like you and, in my experience, a lot of those "nice" people won't hesitate to shit on you behind your back. To that end, I totally get where the perception of fakeness comes from regarding LA because I've experienced it as well.
I hear this argument all the time and it confuses me greatly. The opposite of Los Angeles culture would be New England's where you immediately know where everyone stands with you because they're all assholes to your face until they decide to know you deeply.
I don't know about you, but i'm not needy nor do I need to spend my time around others to validate myself and who I am. I prefer a friendly , "Hey bud, how's the day going?" "Good! How about you?" "Excellent! Keep on enjoying the weather!" and just leave it at that. I have enough of my own problems to deal with and have no desire to want to dig deeper into someone else's life.
I don't have a desire to know people beyond the superficial nor do I expect them to like me and vice versa. The only person that really knows me deeply is my wife and I expect to keep it that way.
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a lot of those "nice" people won't hesitate to shit on you behind your back.
Don't most people do this? I've talked shit about my friends behind their backs and i've heard shit they say about me behind my back. It's not that big a deal if you're secure in who you are and where you fall in the world.