Quote: (04-11-2017 08:51 PM)dirty_old Wrote:
What some guys in this thread are not quite understanding, is that in the OP's location, this type of "arrangement" is more common than you realize. Here in the states, it is very common for HOT (and many not so hot dreamers as well) girls 18-22 to be at least curious about finding a "sponsor"... At least some of their friends have done or are doing it, and the lure of easy money (or a boost in social status, or whatever) is strong.
Especially when you are a foreigner, and the country is poor, this type of relationship is somewhat ingrained in the culture when it comes to dating older gringos (as noted here by others, it is in Asia, Russia, and Latin America)..
You are going to have to change and become truly different and more interesting to set yourself apart.
Yes, the best bet is to search for new girls who are not actively seeking that sort of dynamic. Change your approach, and become more interesting. You are obviously hanging out with other "rich" dudes who are using this sort of dynamic to their advantage... bringing your girl into that social circle is a recipe for disaster. Perhaps change your social circle and become more dangerous/mysterious/exciting. You are better off investing yourself, and investing in new activities that might allow you to interact with new/different girls more.
OP, are you really looking for a true ltr/marriage? You have noted that you want your girls to be exclusive, but do you really want something long term? If so, then you need to focus on new girls, and a completely new lifestyle/approach instead of converting a girl that you have picked up using the "provider" approach.
As you found out with your testing....can't "convert" them using money. You may be able to try to convert them by getting them hooked on the "adventures" you bring to them, or something else they can't get anywhere else. But once a slut/once a hooker, always a hooker is going to remain true.
Those girls fall in love with some of their sponsors.
But they usually fall in love with men who are conventionally attractive, extremely Alpha anyway, so you are back to square one on the self-improvement Red Pill train.