[Lunostrelki]

Just do what you can to be a better man, and have a good explanation (verbal, visual, etc.) for why you won't end up like them. There's plenty of fiction produced about men overcoming their bad family members. My mom had reservations about my dad since most of his family was divorced or had marital issues. But he had a good personality and work ethic so they've been together for nearly 30 years without major issues.