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(03-04-2017 08:57 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  

Hello, everyone.

I've been a member of this forum for quite some time now and all I've ever done is lurk and live vicariously through you guys (and the manosphere in general) so I decided it is time to stop with this bullshit and start to walk the walk instead of just talking the talk. As the title says I'm a virgin even though I had quite a few opportunities to bang, but didn't because quite frankly with all the porn and masturbation I just couldn't get it up to real women. Yeah, I know, WTF right?

I recently started going to the gym and I'm doing the NOFAP 90 days challenge before I can start approaching; I figured that it'd be useless to start approaching when my sex drive a social anxiety are fucked due to years being a fucking recluse playing video games and masturbating on my bedroom.

Not sure if I'm even being coherent here, but I'd like your opinions on this. How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Anyway, that's it.

Well for starters get a job; other than that practice mindfulness meditation, it's the best relief for social anxiety as most anxiety and fears are caused by not living in the present, and being too caught up in thought.

If you are in a relaxed state of mind and living in the present then you tend to naturally do better with women and social situations without having to consciously "think" about it, since much of social interaction is just the result of human's natural instincts running their course; when one is actively thinking and planning this represses their natural instincts; while this is useful for problem solving or dealing with machines; it's ineffective in social situations.

Basically any "game" you try to learn is something you should be doing in private; when you're actually in a social situation you shouldn't be consciously thinking about "what to say", you should just be letting you instinct guide you naturally.

I believe Sun Tzu said a successful general wins first before going into battle; this should be your mentality in social situations; you should do all of your planning before hand, rather than actively think while in the moment.