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(02-17-2017 07:23 PM)Eugenics Wrote:  

Lets identify some common mannerisms is the female population and see if someone has the answer. I'll go first.

Any mannerisms you come up with will apply to both females and males. Some mannerisms will apply more to one group than the other but the manosphere idea that women have psychological quirks or issues that men don't have isn't realistic.

(02-17-2017 11:18 PM)Eugenics Wrote:  

I meant to ask why girls act like they want to see you again when they have no intentions of doing so. What is their motivation?

It could be many things. Here are a few examples.

1 Girls are irrational and frequently change their mind. Don't expect them to behave logically.

2 It is uncomfortable to directly tell someone that you aren't interested. Most people, including guys, will go with something much more subtle. What do you do when a girl keeps texting you even though you aren't interested? Do you immediately tell her to stop because you aren't interested? Probably not. Most girls don't want to be rude so they might have short conversations with you and try to be polite even though they aren't interested in seeing you again.

3 Attractive girls usually have other guys that they are talking to or sleeping with.

4 Some girls love the attention so they don't stop you from continuing to give them attention.

(02-18-2017 04:41 PM)Eugenics Wrote:  

I'm less frustrated and am just curious. I know the nature of women; they have their ways of doing things and rarely is it straight forward and I'm alright with that. What I don't like is not understanding their intentions.

You never know someone truely until you know what they want; what drives them. I'm just seeking understanding

Most of the time you won't know what their specific motivation was and it usually doesn't matter. What is more important is how you handle things if you want to bang them again or want a chance at banging them again. Don't chase them but possibly follow up with them in several months. Let them go on the best possible terms, i.e. don't get angry, frustrated, or needy.

Blackdragon doesn't get much love on this forum because he does open relationships. It's too bad because most of what he talks about applies to any relationship from friends with benefits to more serious LTRs. He writes about a lot of simple concepts (that aren't at odds with basic psychology like some manosphere opinions) such as Softs Nexts, Long Soft Nexts from girls and how to handle them, why you shouldn't be controlling, etc. I've had girls come back to me in many situations just because I knew how to let them go, or why I should disengage and follow up several months later, or how to make it easy for them to come back.