Quote: (01-11-2017 07:07 AM)OCZ Wrote:
Quote: (01-11-2017 01:36 AM)MattHanson1990 Wrote:
Hello you all, it's been a long time since I last posted on here. But I'm back in Mexico, residing in the colonial Bajío city of Guanajuato. And it seems to have gotten much worse from when I was residing here from June until mid November when I went to the USA for Thanksgiving and to visit a long lost male friend who lives in Tucson, AZ.
Here's the story. There was this girl from Mazatlán, Sinaloa who I seemed to really like over girls born and raised in the Bajío region because she had a more feminine bubbly personality whereas many Bajío girls seemed to have "apathetic" personalities. And she was my type, physically. She had big eyes, her skin was of a very light olive complexion. And she was also a gordita (meso-endomorph body type, and as a sidenote I am NOT into slender Mexican girls whose body type is predominantly ectomorph). Long story short, I couldn't talk to her at her workplace (an open air restaurant on the street) anymore. And we couldn't hang out over the Holidays. She then went to Puerto Vallarta shortly after the new year. Just now I looked at my news feed on Facebook and discovered she just found a new boyfriend in Vallarta (whom she told me is from Aguascalientes); so yuck, yuck, yuck. And she and another boyfriend broke up in November (yes it was just after the Cubs won the World Series). Talk about a girl who's apparently single only for a short time between relationships.
Yes I thought about just leaving Guanajuato to a part of Mexico where the girls are more open to befriending or even dating foreigners, in particular areas of Northern Mexico that aren't narco-ridden. I know in Mexico City, the local girls are more open to dating foreigners. However, I've been there plenty of times and eventually grew tired of the fast-paced lifestyle and the chaos. I even noticed that in Mexico City, people take advantage of others more than anywhere else I've been to in Mexico. Yes I even got ripped off when I took a taxi from San Angel to Central de Autobuses del Norte (the meter read that I had to pay just over 100 pesos but the driver charged me 200 pesos). And I almost got ripped off again when I took a taxi to the airport.
Back to topic, there are other parts of Mexico other than DF where there are transplants who are more open-minded to dating a foreigner. Yes, I mentioned that people from Northern Mexico are more open to new people than those in the interior of the country. I noticed it myself many times. For instance I met a girl from Torreon and she was curious about me. I still stay in touch with her, unlike a lot of Bajío girls who flaked out on me. And when I went to San Luis Potosí, many of the locals were curious about me. I even got Facebook friend requests from girls in that place. Last but not least, a female friend in Ciudad Juarez lived in Guadalajara for a decade, and she told me that people in Central Mexico aren't as friendly as they are in Northern Mexico. On My Latin Life, an American of Italian descent told me he was disappointed with Guadalajara but had a much better time in Cholula Puebla. That's another city I'm considering.
For a while now I have been eyeing on Mexicanas from Sinaloa because from what I heard they have bubbly personalities as well as being good looking. But now that I discovered this one Sinaloense girl I really liked was single only for a couple months, I am suspicious that many girls in northern Mexico are single only for a short time in between relationships while the guys are pretty much incel for a much longer time. From what I was told, it's that way in Ciudad Juarez and in Chihuahua City. But I am wondering if it's like that all over Northern Mexico and places near that region (e.g. Aguascalientes, Zacatecas) because of their proximity to the USA. For those who have been to Northern Mexico (no matter if it's Sinaloa, Sonora, Nuevo León), please tell me if you found the girls to not be single for very long in between relationships / just as promiscuous as American women.
Also, another theory I have is that Mexican girls who regularly go to resort places are very well likely promiscuous and have no problems meeting another guy after they leave their boyfriends. But correct me if I'm wrong.
If Mexico gets any worse, my last resort is The Philippines although my concern is that place is already too played out (due to information getting out on the Internet as well as Winston Wu's Happier Abroad). If not I will head to Russia or Ukraine where I heard that it's easier for a man to find a girlfriend than it is for a woman to find a boyfriend.
First of all I am from the North of Mexico my friend ( from Coahuila), lived 6 years in Nuevo León and what you say about northen mexican women, yes they stay single for a short period of time (the good ones) in between relationships.
What do I recommend for you? Monterrey. It is the biggest city in northern mexico, with a lot of international companies and a big middle-upperclass. There are 3 big universities, where students from around Mexico go to study (Tec de Monterrey- rings a bell?). You will have to understand that in Northern Mexico, social circle is the rule so probably as a foreign is your biggest barrier, but with students who aren't from Monterrey is not a big deal and your chances boost. I don't know your level of spanish man, but if you try to move around the area of Garza Sada and the San Pedro municipality you'll do fine. Think about it and I can put you in contact with a friend who organizes parties for international students/expaths where mexican girls interested in foreings (educated) show up.
As I had a chance to study in Monterrey for one semester I can vouch for what OCZ said... Quality girls seem to have brief pauses between their relationships.
If you decide to move to Monterrey I don't think you would have much luck with them without social circle, fluent Spanish, status and very good looks. Most of Regios are proud and cliquish people so breaking into the circle is not easy.
Your best bet here is to hit international events/parties/trips where you will meet a good mix of international students and Mexicans eager to meet foreigners. You are likely meet easy-going girls from all of the Northern Mexico and chill dudes that you can befriend. Those people frequently complain about the elitists Regios too. If you don't know where to look for it, send me a PM.
If I were you, I would just hit Mazatlan. Sizeable beach city, not spoiled with gringos (expect for pensioners), one of the best girls of all Mexico, decent food and relatively safe. If you wanna get a grip of what it has to offer, go during Carnaval or Semana Santa.
You may also try Zacatecas. There is some student population, girls are good-looking, you will definately be exotic and the city has colonial charm.
Good luck in Mexico, it's an awesome country!