You should make a move so subtly that when the girl is not interested she can shoot you down equally subtly.
– Give the girl you like more attention in group conversations, engage her more in any kind of way. It could be some flattering words, could be some teasing, could making fun of her, could be appreciating something about her, spending more time together, whatever. Point is that attention by itself IS your signal that you’re into her. She will get it. Other girls will get it too. That’s how they recognize what’s going on, that’s how you let her know you like her.
– Flirt in between normal conversation to avoid being viewed as classic friend. She should feel you have some intentions towards her.
– Talk one on one with that girl more than with the others, have deeper conversations in private. Build connection.
– Share same hobbies, be in the same team at work/school, go to the same places, find ways to be together more often. Use any excuse you can.
The whole point of this is to give a girl chance to meet you and also give a choice to dismiss you in very quiet and polite way (usually by excusing herself from the situation) so there is no “story” about you. Nobody notices. Nobody gossips about you. Sure she can tell her friends that you made a move, that’s fine, but she won’t have reasons to talk shit about you behind your back.
Notice that usually when 2 people within the same circle are attracted to each other and start fooling around they keep it secret. Even though others can sense that something is going on between them both but the way they talk to each other is still vague enough that it’s not clear whether they’re dating or not yet. Then few weeks later, after they’ve been on few dates together they hand out with friends holding each other hands as now they are ready to show it. That’s how things go down usually. That’s the classic route. If you want to go on a date with a girl you know then this is how you do it.
That's the safe way.
The risky way is when you hit on her in obvious way. When you try to express your romantic interest in a very obvious way out of the blue or you start hitting on a girl with your/her friends around. That’s bad. That draws too much attention to the fact that you’re interested in her and you put you and her on the spot. What’s even worse is that you have no idea whether she’s even slightly interested in you or not in the first place. That’s too much pressure from the get go. Not good.
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– Give the girl you like more attention in group conversations, engage her more in any kind of way. It could be some flattering words, could be some teasing, could making fun of her, could be appreciating something about her, spending more time together, whatever. Point is that attention by itself IS your signal that you’re into her. She will get it. Other girls will get it too. That’s how they recognize what’s going on, that’s how you let her know you like her.
– Flirt in between normal conversation to avoid being viewed as classic friend. She should feel you have some intentions towards her.
– Talk one on one with that girl more than with the others, have deeper conversations in private. Build connection.
– Share same hobbies, be in the same team at work/school, go to the same places, find ways to be together more often. Use any excuse you can.
The whole point of this is to give a girl chance to meet you and also give a choice to dismiss you in very quiet and polite way (usually by excusing herself from the situation) so there is no “story” about you. Nobody notices. Nobody gossips about you. Sure she can tell her friends that you made a move, that’s fine, but she won’t have reasons to talk shit about you behind your back.
Notice that usually when 2 people within the same circle are attracted to each other and start fooling around they keep it secret. Even though others can sense that something is going on between them both but the way they talk to each other is still vague enough that it’s not clear whether they’re dating or not yet. Then few weeks later, after they’ve been on few dates together they hand out with friends holding each other hands as now they are ready to show it. That’s how things go down usually. That’s the classic route. If you want to go on a date with a girl you know then this is how you do it.
That's the safe way.
The risky way is when you hit on her in obvious way. When you try to express your romantic interest in a very obvious way out of the blue or you start hitting on a girl with your/her friends around. That’s bad. That draws too much attention to the fact that you’re interested in her and you put you and her on the spot. What’s even worse is that you have no idea whether she’s even slightly interested in you or not in the first place. That’s too much pressure from the get go. Not good.
That's the classic route. The next level is to become that popular flirty social butterfly fun guy that girls like but don't treat too seriously -> https://goo.gl/nCTYQO