Quote: (08-29-2016 06:51 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
And what did you tell us that you noticed?
"(she looked a bit grumpy)"
So clearly you don't have asperger's or some pseudo-medical reason....
Right now
- you don't have a plan
- you don't have the improvisational skills to go without a canned opener
- you're not mindful of social context/social reality
- you're not paying attention to their reactions.
Fix those things.
Count yourself lucky. If you've had hundreds of rejections, clearly you don't have Approach Anxiety.
Even though I know you're not a Dr., hearing that you don't think I have aspergers or something actually feels good! That's teh exact sort of thing I've been wondering about for the last few days. I tihnk maybe i'm so 'in my head' and trying to remember things to say, questions to ask etc, that it's doing more harm than good.
''You don't have a plan''
What sort of plan do i need, specifically?
''- you don't have the improvisational skills to go without a canned opener''
true
''you're not mindful of social context''
How do I fix this?
''- you're not paying attention to their reactions''
Do you mean like how i noticed, yet ignored the 'grumpy' reaction of the girl in one of the reports? I just didn't know how to react. Should I have brought up the fact that she looked grumpy in that sort of situation??