Hey guys,
First off, I have been browsing these forums for almost 5 months now and I have to say: Most of you on here are god damn geniuses! I owe Roosh and the community here a ton of credit for upping my Game.
Enough of the ass kissing, I need some input.
I have been working with this hot chick, an 8 or 9, for the past year. We belong to different companies but work closely on some big projects. We don't see or talk to each other day to day, but we bump into each other a few times a month and talk on the phone about once a week.
Up until 6 weeks ago she has had a 30 month LTR with some guy. As soon as I heard she was single I started working her. I had some events planned that I took her out on. We partied for 3 days straight with a 6 + social circle, people we both knew. We had a good time etc etc.
I let a couple of days pass and I ask her out on a date. She accepts and last Wednesday we go out to dinner followed by a bar followed by an intense bang at my place. She stayed the night and be banged again in the morning. I proceeded to jump in the shower and got dressed. I told her I had a bunch of work to do and she could see herself out.
I had no contact with her on Thursday. Thought Id let her process last nights events.
Friday comes and I call her around lunch (work related). I end the call mentioning I might be having after work drinks close to where I live (which also happens to be close to her office) and to join me there. She responds (and here is the kicker) that she would like to have drinks with me in 1 and 1/2 weeks cos she's got her daughter until then. I responded with a "whatever" and "take it easy" and ended the call.
I leave my office early and head to the bar. 2 friends come over and eventually my sisters join in as well. After about an hour I get a text from the girl asking if Im still there. I respond with a "yes, having a shat with some friends and my sisters". She tells me she's gonna join, I respond with "ok".
She arrives, I give her a peck on the cheek, we have a drink and chat about nothing yada yada. Eventually we all get up to leave and I mention to the girl that if she wants to go swimming this weekend hit me up (I have a pool at my country house, about 45 min from the Stockholm)
Obviously I hear nothing from her all weekend and Im radio silent. Yesterday (Monday) I send her a text in the evening telling her Im having lunch downtown, convo looks like this:
Me: Eating lunch downtown tomorrow, join me
Her: Lunchtime tomorrow Im driving out to the airport, but let us find another time this week!
No response from me.
I have 2 other chicks Im working right now, one Im seeing Thursday evening and 1 who is joining me this weekend at my country house.
Thing is I would like to put this into LTR mode.
Sorry about the wall of text and here comes my question:
Those of you who have gamed and banged co workers but then want to make it more then a SNL, how do you proceed and escalate a relationship that foremost has already been established as a working relationship?
The way i see it I don't want to be to much of a jerk because that that might ruin our work, in essence she is a client of mine. Frame wise in our working relationship I have the power. So far in our intimate relationship I feel I have the power but I have a feeling she herself is trying to game me (Long response time with texts, trying not to seem to eager etc)
Obviously I don’t respond to her latest text and if she wants to get together again she will have to initiate. But is this the right call? She is not flaking me since we didn’t have a set date, yet I don’t feel like asking her out again.
I have not interest in meeting her kid (right now) so I don’t want to hang out with her this weekend or in the evenings (not that she as suggested it, but know the suggestion won’t come from me)
Should I just say ”fuck it” and not talk to her outside of work until her kid is back with the dad, or check what her schedule is later this week and suggest another noon time rendezvous. My plan was to ask her out to lunch, but instead of eating at the restaurant: order out, have a car waiting outside, get in a drive to my apartment, fuck her and then eat the food on my balcony. In my mind minimal effort for a highly desired effect. If this plan backfires I would just next her and move on.
My first post and a lot of text, but I would appreciate any kind of feedback,
cheers,
CS
First off, I have been browsing these forums for almost 5 months now and I have to say: Most of you on here are god damn geniuses! I owe Roosh and the community here a ton of credit for upping my Game.
Enough of the ass kissing, I need some input.
I have been working with this hot chick, an 8 or 9, for the past year. We belong to different companies but work closely on some big projects. We don't see or talk to each other day to day, but we bump into each other a few times a month and talk on the phone about once a week.
Up until 6 weeks ago she has had a 30 month LTR with some guy. As soon as I heard she was single I started working her. I had some events planned that I took her out on. We partied for 3 days straight with a 6 + social circle, people we both knew. We had a good time etc etc.
I let a couple of days pass and I ask her out on a date. She accepts and last Wednesday we go out to dinner followed by a bar followed by an intense bang at my place. She stayed the night and be banged again in the morning. I proceeded to jump in the shower and got dressed. I told her I had a bunch of work to do and she could see herself out.
I had no contact with her on Thursday. Thought Id let her process last nights events.
Friday comes and I call her around lunch (work related). I end the call mentioning I might be having after work drinks close to where I live (which also happens to be close to her office) and to join me there. She responds (and here is the kicker) that she would like to have drinks with me in 1 and 1/2 weeks cos she's got her daughter until then. I responded with a "whatever" and "take it easy" and ended the call.
I leave my office early and head to the bar. 2 friends come over and eventually my sisters join in as well. After about an hour I get a text from the girl asking if Im still there. I respond with a "yes, having a shat with some friends and my sisters". She tells me she's gonna join, I respond with "ok".
She arrives, I give her a peck on the cheek, we have a drink and chat about nothing yada yada. Eventually we all get up to leave and I mention to the girl that if she wants to go swimming this weekend hit me up (I have a pool at my country house, about 45 min from the Stockholm)
Obviously I hear nothing from her all weekend and Im radio silent. Yesterday (Monday) I send her a text in the evening telling her Im having lunch downtown, convo looks like this:
Me: Eating lunch downtown tomorrow, join me
Her: Lunchtime tomorrow Im driving out to the airport, but let us find another time this week!
No response from me.
I have 2 other chicks Im working right now, one Im seeing Thursday evening and 1 who is joining me this weekend at my country house.
Thing is I would like to put this into LTR mode.
Sorry about the wall of text and here comes my question:
Those of you who have gamed and banged co workers but then want to make it more then a SNL, how do you proceed and escalate a relationship that foremost has already been established as a working relationship?
The way i see it I don't want to be to much of a jerk because that that might ruin our work, in essence she is a client of mine. Frame wise in our working relationship I have the power. So far in our intimate relationship I feel I have the power but I have a feeling she herself is trying to game me (Long response time with texts, trying not to seem to eager etc)
Obviously I don’t respond to her latest text and if she wants to get together again she will have to initiate. But is this the right call? She is not flaking me since we didn’t have a set date, yet I don’t feel like asking her out again.
I have not interest in meeting her kid (right now) so I don’t want to hang out with her this weekend or in the evenings (not that she as suggested it, but know the suggestion won’t come from me)
Should I just say ”fuck it” and not talk to her outside of work until her kid is back with the dad, or check what her schedule is later this week and suggest another noon time rendezvous. My plan was to ask her out to lunch, but instead of eating at the restaurant: order out, have a car waiting outside, get in a drive to my apartment, fuck her and then eat the food on my balcony. In my mind minimal effort for a highly desired effect. If this plan backfires I would just next her and move on.
My first post and a lot of text, but I would appreciate any kind of feedback,
cheers,
CS