Quote: (05-23-2016 07:23 PM)Chowder Head Wrote:
What are some good reading, videos, writers for deep rapport would you guys suggest? Great posts from everyone in this thread.
As has been explained to be, you can get deep rapport from anyone. Rapport is the state in which you can talk about anything. You can get into deep rapport with just about anyone by talking about anything, just care about it.
Rapport doesn't get you laid, it just removes the barrier of honest conversation. Create a non judgmental atmosphere, and she'll tell you her sexual secrets over a banana split. But a lot of women have no problem telling you all sorts of things you don't want to know. Get rapport without attraction and you're in the friend zone.
He's such a good conversationalist.
What you need is comfort.
Comfort is what puts your ego at risk.
You have to make moves that she might reject, and still not get butt hurt about it. Building comfort through escalation.
Comfort is about trust. Every time you touch a chick and you notice she's not into it, you withdraw without saying anything. You're attentive. Never think no, just think not yet.
Comfort gets you laid. She trusts you. That's why when you move a chick and the bookstore, to the coffee shop, walk through the city - trust builds. Every time you go someplace, and nothing bad happens, trust builds.
So when you finally get in the cab to head back to your apartment, everything should be cool.
With that in mind, a player doesn't need a book on how to build rapport, he needs to be bold and try to establish comfort aka trust .
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If you want to see rapport develop watch soft ball interviews on television. The tv hosts are great at giving their guests a way to shine and taking answers and building something more. Charlie Rose comes to mind. He'll take an answer to an easy question that the guest prepared for, and get a new little nugget out. And the guest feels good for unburdening themselves.
Rapport is great for screening. Long term dtf, short term. Etc.
WIA