Long story short: I've been banging a couple girls on and off from online game, and I'm getting soft on approaches.
Last night I was out at a night venue that ranked REALLY good on the "approachable girl" metric. Around here, that doesn't happen very often.
I opened a solid "7" blonde at the bar and she was totally receptive. But, after a few minutes I let the conversation die, and she walked away. After a year I'm dressing better, my game is better, and I'm getting more "IOIs" on average. But I didn't press that interaction forward. I honestly didn't run many approaches at all last night, and the ones I did were totally halfhearted. I could have at the very least got a number from that girl. What was I thinking?
The problem is I know what I was thinking: I was fucking scared.
Maybe it's been one too many approaches that I've been blown out on that's made me timid. But I feel like even though in some ways my game is objectively better when I have a girl one on one, I feel like in social situations my approach anxiety and ability to push forward has actually gotten worse.
Frankly, I've become comfortable with easy-mode "okay" pussy, from girls who I'm pretty sure are going to sign on the line ahead of time, simply because I'm two points higher than them on whatever "scale" were talking about. Easy-mode sluts who are probably fucking around with other dudes anyway.
I don't like this. I'm not sure there's any specific advice that makes sense other than "suck it up and push", but I'm open to ideas. One thing I'm considering - break it off or cut way back with the easy mode girls, and go "no porn." Cut way back on online game (though because of my poor location I might find it hard to stop completely.) Thirst can be a terrible thing, but it can also be a powerful motivator.
Last night I was out at a night venue that ranked REALLY good on the "approachable girl" metric. Around here, that doesn't happen very often.
I opened a solid "7" blonde at the bar and she was totally receptive. But, after a few minutes I let the conversation die, and she walked away. After a year I'm dressing better, my game is better, and I'm getting more "IOIs" on average. But I didn't press that interaction forward. I honestly didn't run many approaches at all last night, and the ones I did were totally halfhearted. I could have at the very least got a number from that girl. What was I thinking?
The problem is I know what I was thinking: I was fucking scared.
Maybe it's been one too many approaches that I've been blown out on that's made me timid. But I feel like even though in some ways my game is objectively better when I have a girl one on one, I feel like in social situations my approach anxiety and ability to push forward has actually gotten worse.
Frankly, I've become comfortable with easy-mode "okay" pussy, from girls who I'm pretty sure are going to sign on the line ahead of time, simply because I'm two points higher than them on whatever "scale" were talking about. Easy-mode sluts who are probably fucking around with other dudes anyway.
I don't like this. I'm not sure there's any specific advice that makes sense other than "suck it up and push", but I'm open to ideas. One thing I'm considering - break it off or cut way back with the easy mode girls, and go "no porn." Cut way back on online game (though because of my poor location I might find it hard to stop completely.) Thirst can be a terrible thing, but it can also be a powerful motivator.