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(04-10-2016 02:26 PM)Jtguthrie12 Wrote:  

(04-10-2016 02:13 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  

Next. You're dead in the water here.

In the future, never let her dictate what's going to happen when you hang out. Always set the frame. She's coming along for the ride. You are the one calling the shots. Also, she presumably hooked up with a coworker at this party? You still want to take her to formal?

No idea if she did but okay will do. thanks for the advice. I dont know she was hella stoked about it wanted to chill with me alot telling me how she got a dress for it and got time off etc. then this.

I'm she she was excited about it at some point, until you lost frame. Try to identify the point at which you lost control of the interaction and learn from it. Just charge this one to the game.

You will often have limited information to work with, learn to trust your gut. Once you sense she is pulling away or losing interest, resist the urge to double down and start ignoring her. That's a key many newbs need to learn. It doesn't matter if she was interested at some point, learn to acknowledge when it's best to either pull back or cut contact entirely and you will save much time and dignity in the long run.