Guys who are going to try and pick up girls on the cold approach are going to get it wrong sometimes. This was one of those times, kind of embarrassing for yours truly. I had a strange and defensive reaction her saying she was not single. And this was compounded my some bad self-talk "oh no this is so awkward now!!!" type internal dialogue.
The scene is the local supermarket around 9pm. There is around 3 or 4 minutes of line ahead of us. I respect the 3 second rule and just start with anything.
T How is your night going?
Cutey: I went to a movie with my mom. Hows yours?
T I went to a date, but we didn't click. I actually organised it through a friend of my mom, and it was a blind date. Are you single?
[this was a fact, but I don't like this, it sounds desperate]
Cutey: No
T: I thought you went to a movie with your mom? Didn't you say *your mom*?
[Oh god this was a such a dumb thing to say because of course a girl with a partner can go to the movie with her mom. I should have just said - "i find it so hard to tell if a girl is single or not without asking.". Can anyone give me a good line if they say they're not single?]
Cutey: Yes I did [defensive]
T: Oh, did you do that as a nice thing for your mom?
Cutey: Yes, I did. [volunteering] We went to see changeling with Angelina Jolie.
T: How was it?
[recovered into small talk]..blah blah... we waited until the end of the line chatting about odd stuff.
I crashed and burned, but of course I rocked for doing it. I always feel like a man when I approach, and a pussy when I don't.
The scene is the local supermarket around 9pm. There is around 3 or 4 minutes of line ahead of us. I respect the 3 second rule and just start with anything.
T How is your night going?
Cutey: I went to a movie with my mom. Hows yours?
T I went to a date, but we didn't click. I actually organised it through a friend of my mom, and it was a blind date. Are you single?
[this was a fact, but I don't like this, it sounds desperate]
Cutey: No
T: I thought you went to a movie with your mom? Didn't you say *your mom*?
[Oh god this was a such a dumb thing to say because of course a girl with a partner can go to the movie with her mom. I should have just said - "i find it so hard to tell if a girl is single or not without asking.". Can anyone give me a good line if they say they're not single?]
Cutey: Yes I did [defensive]
T: Oh, did you do that as a nice thing for your mom?
Cutey: Yes, I did. [volunteering] We went to see changeling with Angelina Jolie.
T: How was it?
[recovered into small talk]..blah blah... we waited until the end of the line chatting about odd stuff.
I crashed and burned, but of course I rocked for doing it. I always feel like a man when I approach, and a pussy when I don't.
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