I've done some forum searching and wasn't able to find any definitive guide or strategies on preventing this so here's my question. What techniques or strategies (if any) are you guys using to prevent a woman from shoe horning your date in between other commitments such as girls night out, birthday parties etc?
For me I never set first dates on weekend nights since it's too easy for these situations to occur. However my policy is more lax on second dates where the first went well and she's actively pursuing me. I generally figure that going out for drinks on a Friday or Saturday night is conducive to me getting a second date bang but I now have my doubts...
I had a second date last night that fit the exact scenario I just described but after about an hour she casually drops that she needs to leave soon to go to a girlfriend's birthday party. This is after we've been drinking wine, we're sitting next to each other on a couch and her leg is constantly pushing up against mine and we had already kissed. After she said that I smirked and said "this is a lot more fun you need to blow your friend off". She deflected and shortly thereafter she was off into the night.
Is there any way to casually find out up front what her evening schedule is before setting the date without sounding needy? The only thing I can think of is to adopt a hardline no weekend night date policy until after the bang has been secured. Too harsh?
For me I never set first dates on weekend nights since it's too easy for these situations to occur. However my policy is more lax on second dates where the first went well and she's actively pursuing me. I generally figure that going out for drinks on a Friday or Saturday night is conducive to me getting a second date bang but I now have my doubts...
I had a second date last night that fit the exact scenario I just described but after about an hour she casually drops that she needs to leave soon to go to a girlfriend's birthday party. This is after we've been drinking wine, we're sitting next to each other on a couch and her leg is constantly pushing up against mine and we had already kissed. After she said that I smirked and said "this is a lot more fun you need to blow your friend off". She deflected and shortly thereafter she was off into the night.
Is there any way to casually find out up front what her evening schedule is before setting the date without sounding needy? The only thing I can think of is to adopt a hardline no weekend night date policy until after the bang has been secured. Too harsh?