I try to be more comforting at work than I am in person. I'm blunt and loud around my friends. I'm at my most real self when I'm around those guys.
Everyone at work comes to me when they are frustrated or feel stupid. My first task is to affirm to them that I'm here to help, that they aren't idiots for needing my help, that we're not judging them, etc. To be honest I probably try too hard to be likable at work, sometimes I wonder if it comes off as pandering. When the frustration boils over and complaints reach my superiors I fiercely defend myself, I cite a lot of facts that often "blinds them with science." The supervisors can't really understand any of it so they throw their hands in the air and drop the issue. I've never had to rely on technobabble to cover for my own laziness but I suppose I could if I wanted.
With girls I try to go for "charming scoundrel," it works okay in text but in person it only comes through about half the time. I need to work on pulling conversation out of my ass, its easy to conversationally paint yourself into a corner and come off as boring.
Everyone at work comes to me when they are frustrated or feel stupid. My first task is to affirm to them that I'm here to help, that they aren't idiots for needing my help, that we're not judging them, etc. To be honest I probably try too hard to be likable at work, sometimes I wonder if it comes off as pandering. When the frustration boils over and complaints reach my superiors I fiercely defend myself, I cite a lot of facts that often "blinds them with science." The supervisors can't really understand any of it so they throw their hands in the air and drop the issue. I've never had to rely on technobabble to cover for my own laziness but I suppose I could if I wanted.
With girls I try to go for "charming scoundrel," it works okay in text but in person it only comes through about half the time. I need to work on pulling conversation out of my ass, its easy to conversationally paint yourself into a corner and come off as boring.