[robreke]

I like the idea of asking them to contact you when they got home safe ( especially if they're drinking or they have a long drive) Sometimes I don't though as it's a bit of a test to see how much she enjoyed herself if she sends you a post date unsolicited text.

If she contacts me that night after the date via text, either solicited or unsolicited on my part, I always wait until at least 10 or later the next morning to respond. If she says something like "I had a great time tonight" or "I had a great time last night"

I'll text "I did too, we should do it again sometime when you're free." To which she'll usually reply in the positive then I'll go " great, when are you free again?" and set the date.

If I do not get a text from her, I will usually wait until the following week to text her. Example, we date on a wed or thurs or Friday night. I'll contact her the next Monday or Tuesday night with an opener. Then, based on her energy and the flow of the text, ask her out again.

Rinse and repeat. The goal is to get her to eventually start contacting you after dates and every time she reaches out, you just set the next date. She'll learn the pattern.

It takes two to tango.