Quote: (12-10-2015 01:49 PM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:
Really, whats the difference between an IOI and just a casual look? An IOI could be simply what you decide that it is. While it might matter more to someone who does game for a living, saying to yourself "oh she's just looking around, I'm not going to approach" doesn't really help most guys.
If interpreting every look as an IOI helps dudes get over some approach anxiety and increases their experience, then what's the harm?
I think that once you've connected enough "IOIs" with enough approach responses, you'll internalize the difference and nuance of what makes something an IOI or an accidental glance.
That's what I kind of saw it as. Cobra, please correct me here if I'm off base.
H3ltrsk3ltr is right.
There are 2 types of guys on the forum:
-Those confident in themselves so they write about how IOIs help them know how girls react to their confidence.
-Those not too confident that look "outside" of themselves to figure out and over think every look a girl gives.
Girls may react the same to both guys but the latter don't even have the confidence in the first place to know how girls react to it. They're just trying to find gold on a beach.
Quote: (12-10-2015 09:20 AM)civpro Wrote:
Quote: (12-10-2015 08:03 AM)Cobra Wrote:
I've mentioned this to you before. You need to work on your inner game.
Do I know you?
Of course you do. I take it you're an Indian man and you believe race is a huge handicap for you. I don't want to turn this into a race thread at all. However, when I know that's the source of your negativity, and most of your posts reflect it, it affects other guys, especially minorities on the forum. Those guys are in need of better guidance. For you specifically, it's not a matter of working out, dressing better or making more money if you think every white girl already hates you in the first place management . These girls are giving you IOIs every day. Their biases hold them back. It's up to you to approach them with confidence. You have to work harder than other guys they like; but you think it's impossible rather than harder. That can only be mitigated and eventually fixed from believing in yourself and developing yourself. Fuck that race noise in your head.
Civpro, you are always very negative when it comes to inner game. The reason you know me is we have had this debate before at thread-42049...pid871802.
Since then I have called this out on other threads as well. the issue is that you take this negativity and bring it to threads like this little IOI thread.
I think you can do better but you seem to hate your race and when someone says you shouldn't, you start hating on them too. Therapy is actually a good solution to this. I'm not fucking with you. Even I have tried it and it has been very positive.
If you can't fix this, maybe the forum is not a place for you because your negativity has spread all the way through to a thread about IOIs.