Quote: (12-03-2015 06:57 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
^ Where does that leave the old manosphere trope of how "just be yourself" is bullshit and always keep an air of mystery about you so girls find you intriguing, challenging, and hard to pin down?
I think we may be mixing congruence with transparency.
The real General Stalin is at home in his boxers drinking beer, eating cold pizza, and playing video games. That surly unkept dude is not getting girls to come over to give him a quick blowie. Not by presenting that image.
However, There's a General Stalin that is calm, cool, collected.
He's funny. He has boundaries. He's interesting. He has stories that no one else can tell.
That side of GS doesn't come out the way that GS wants them to.
So through game, through experience with women, through understanding their common reactions to him, their misconceptions, the typical questions, et cetera.
He can present the real GS to these chicks in a format that they like and enjoy. He speaks slowly, with a rich warm tone. He delivers his stories well. He pauses. He knows when to be silent. He catches chick losing their attention, but also when they're entirely in the palm of his hand. He gently or sharply reprimands when necessary. He has boundaries and they become aware of it.
This is not "just being yourself", but it is entirely you. There's no fraud.
Most guys are just a piece of raw beef.
The guy with game is a perfectly cooked steak, seared nicely on the outside for a crusty exterior and tender, red, and juicy on the inside. Served with a nice side of creamed spinach.
A dude who has good game, chicks just want more and more of it. It doesn't matter what she looks like, ugly or model pretty. His personality draws her in. I don't think guys really get that. It's like the whole PUA washed over them.
She likes what she hears, that's the point of game.
Now if you've got skeletons in your closet, you don't bring them up 5 minutes into your chat. Let her uncover the darkness and depth later on.
WIA