Making friends isn't any harder than it used to be. The difference is that adults do not dedicate enough time, either by necessity or by choice, for a real bond to form.
You made great friends in elementary school because you spent 8+ hours with them every day. You made great friends in college because you literally lived with them. You aren't going to make those bonds by meeting guys at a bowling league that meets once per week for 2 hours.
Meet a couple guys you like through work, sports, clubs etc., and then take a vacation with them - preferably for as long as possible. Force the around the clock interaction. Find out their good and bad traits. Crack jokes until the awkwardness is gone.
I know many couples who became lifelong friends with other couples they met on their honeymoons. Spending 7-10 around-the-clock days with a person or crew really makes the bond form.
You might take the trip and discover you aren't compatible with those guys. Maybe the trip won't be that great. If so, meet new guys when you get home and start saving for the next bro-journey. If the guy or crew doesn't want to take a trip with you, he's not open to making new friends. Find someone who is - there's tons of lonely people in the city.
If you think this is too awkward or too time-consuming, you are making the CHOICE not to have friends in my opinion.
You made great friends in elementary school because you spent 8+ hours with them every day. You made great friends in college because you literally lived with them. You aren't going to make those bonds by meeting guys at a bowling league that meets once per week for 2 hours.
Meet a couple guys you like through work, sports, clubs etc., and then take a vacation with them - preferably for as long as possible. Force the around the clock interaction. Find out their good and bad traits. Crack jokes until the awkwardness is gone.
I know many couples who became lifelong friends with other couples they met on their honeymoons. Spending 7-10 around-the-clock days with a person or crew really makes the bond form.
You might take the trip and discover you aren't compatible with those guys. Maybe the trip won't be that great. If so, meet new guys when you get home and start saving for the next bro-journey. If the guy or crew doesn't want to take a trip with you, he's not open to making new friends. Find someone who is - there's tons of lonely people in the city.
If you think this is too awkward or too time-consuming, you are making the CHOICE not to have friends in my opinion.