As a side observation, this touches on one thing that I find problematic about the manosphere, which is its glorification of the minimalistic "lone wolf" lifestyle, where you cut off or deny male relations for not meeting an elevated "red pill" or "alpha" standard.
This is very wrong and very dangerous, and serves to validate the already introverted inclinations of the average guy coming into the 'sphere. You end up screwing yourself majorly as time goes on, where the freshness of socialization dies and it becomes harder and harder to make new ties when you realize you need them. Humans are social creatures, and life = people, whether you like it or not. The ideal is accumulating social capital early and all throughout before your social value and mobility plummet with age. Now obviously most of us were not the cool connected kids growing up, and that's what's brought us into this, but it's best we realize this and get on track, rather reject it entirely and go Lone Wolf out of some kind of spite.
As for people, believe it or not, you don't have to gel with them 100% and hold them up to such a high standard that they'll never meet. As long as you can along with them well and foster inter-dependencies where on the net balance you get more out of it than you put in, then hey that's great.
"Do not be one of the many who mistakenly believe that the ultimate form of power is independence. Power involves a relationship between people; you will always need others as allies, pawns, or even as weak masters who serve as your front. The completely independent man who would live in a cabin in the woods - he would have the freedom to come and go as he pleased, but he would have no power." - Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power
And as for the internet, in my experience with it it's a been horrible way to meet people. It's a last resort for social rejects.
This is very wrong and very dangerous, and serves to validate the already introverted inclinations of the average guy coming into the 'sphere. You end up screwing yourself majorly as time goes on, where the freshness of socialization dies and it becomes harder and harder to make new ties when you realize you need them. Humans are social creatures, and life = people, whether you like it or not. The ideal is accumulating social capital early and all throughout before your social value and mobility plummet with age. Now obviously most of us were not the cool connected kids growing up, and that's what's brought us into this, but it's best we realize this and get on track, rather reject it entirely and go Lone Wolf out of some kind of spite.
As for people, believe it or not, you don't have to gel with them 100% and hold them up to such a high standard that they'll never meet. As long as you can along with them well and foster inter-dependencies where on the net balance you get more out of it than you put in, then hey that's great.
"Do not be one of the many who mistakenly believe that the ultimate form of power is independence. Power involves a relationship between people; you will always need others as allies, pawns, or even as weak masters who serve as your front. The completely independent man who would live in a cabin in the woods - he would have the freedom to come and go as he pleased, but he would have no power." - Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power
And as for the internet, in my experience with it it's a been horrible way to meet people. It's a last resort for social rejects.