^ Quotes never helped any one with anything. They're just there for people to knod at, and then do nothing.
"Like tonight. I drove to a bar and sat around in the parking lot ten minutes, but I couldn't get out my car and go in.
What can I do??"
Repeat the original then. If the problem is being afraid of more people because of the time you arrive, just step that time up by half an hour each time. You already have a benchmark where you're not nervous (being in a quiet bar and not starting conversations with anyone), and you have a benchmark where you're too nervous. Therefore the "nervous but not too much" is somewhere in between. Ramp up to that point, and stay there until the nerves fade, and then ramp up again, repeat. There's nothing "wrong" with you, you just need to be patient and persistent. Especially persistent.
"Like tonight. I drove to a bar and sat around in the parking lot ten minutes, but I couldn't get out my car and go in.
What can I do??"
Repeat the original then. If the problem is being afraid of more people because of the time you arrive, just step that time up by half an hour each time. You already have a benchmark where you're not nervous (being in a quiet bar and not starting conversations with anyone), and you have a benchmark where you're too nervous. Therefore the "nervous but not too much" is somewhere in between. Ramp up to that point, and stay there until the nerves fade, and then ramp up again, repeat. There's nothing "wrong" with you, you just need to be patient and persistent. Especially persistent.