[Geomann180]

(09-27-2015 05:01 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:  

Jeez, you guys are awfully quick to advise "cutting someone out of your life" for what seems like a pretty minor transgression, LOL.

Whatever happened to the normal rough-and-tumble between guys? Sometimes men that are good friends will try to fuck with each other a little. If the guy fucks with you by trying to game some slut you had your eyes on, you can fuck with him some other way, without going overboard. No need to "cut him dead" for something like that.

Obviously I'm not talking about CBW's situation, that's different. But with day to day things, no reason to be so damn sensitive about every little thing or even worry about whether to "forgive" someone as if he tried to steal your grandmother's favorite brooch.

Young dudes these day are way too thin-skinned...

I agree that people today are too thin skinned.

But I don't think the people advocating for OP to cut this guy out of his life (including myself) are going overboard.

I advocated cutting the guy from the team because it doesn't sound like "he's just fucking with OP". If he was, in my mind, he wouldn't be so defensive when questioned ("none of your business man"). He went behind his back to hit on the girl OP was talking to and then lied about it. To me, that sounds like a guy who's insecure and would throw OP under a bus if it made his life really convenient. That's the real issue - not the girl.

I admit - we don't have a lot to go on. We know this other guy is OP's wingman. Presumably they know each other for some time. We can't tell the voice tone when OP and him talked. There's probably a lot of data points missing so maybe I'm giving the wrong advice. But from where I'm looking - it seems reasonable. No reason to stick around a guy who salts your game. I'm not advocating this guy disown his brother or best friend because he hit on some girl he liked (we also don't know how far things went between the girl and either guy).

G

P.S. Since you speak of fucking around with people - I"m pretty sure you're fucking around with us in your post.