Quote: (11-10-2015 12:00 PM)chochemonger1 Wrote:
101. Never marry a Filipino girl. If you cant get a young sweet Russian or Brazilian girl than something is wrong with your game or language skills.
As an older man, that is your only shot al long term happiness with a woman, nowadays.
I don't think it's as simple as that. While I admit that most girls fall into the poor uneducated housewife or stuck up illustrada categories, there's still a handful of women that fall somewhere between those polarities that could work out if you have the right inclination. These are the women who were raised to learn how to cook and nurture, but are also educated and usually working in fields like nursing and education. They often stay inside, and prefer reading at home or bonding with family over going out and getting wasted. Many Filipinas have extremely happy temperaments, are happy to take on a domestic role, and for the most part shun feminism. Filipino guys have a reputation for leaving after they knock their partner up, so even upper tier Filipinas will often prefer westerners. The hardest part will be screening for a chick that doesn't have the history of all the other sluts, and getting her to give it up before marriage. They're rare, but they're out there.
However, there are some considerations to watch out for, that will be a deal-breaker for some:
- She may still want to give money to poorer family members. If it's your money, you need to accept that some of that money might go to pointless things like high speed internet and parties, maybe worse. This is less of a problem in middle or upper class women.
- If you refuse to give your money, she may want to go back to work. Pay is low and hours are long in PI, so by the time she gets home she will be beat. She will not be the helpful housewife you were expecting if she's getting home later than you with only an hour of free time to spare.
- You will often have to accept some difficult cultural aspects. Laziness, tardiness, thinking in the moment and never planning, friends and family always asking for help, people lying to save face, etc. No culture is perfect.
- Some of the more nurturing, traditional women are religious and saving it for marriage. There's also millions of other women who pass themselves off as virgins to get free respect and devotion in order to lock down gullible men. One thing that makes it harder to tell, is filipinas don't seem as damaged or change their behavior much after riding the carousel. Unless she agrees to get a medical examination showing an intact hymen, you really don't know.
- Even if you're 100% sure she's a virgin and you're devoted to being faithful to her, your patience will be tested to the max. Her coworkers and friends will subtly hit on you, women will eyefuck you, checkout counter girls will ask if you have a girlfriend and where you're from. There's a reason PI is the easiest place in the world to get laid. Remaining celibate would be a herculean task for any moderately attractive guy. This also brings the temptation to break up over the smallest reasons, since there's so many options available.
I will give a hypothetical, idealized situation of a married filipina and westerner:
Every day Jennelyn gets up at 5AM to make breakfast and coffee for her husband, Steve. Steve gets up at 5:30 and eats breakfast while reading the news or checking his email. Jennelyn goes into the living room and watches the news or some dramas while waiting for Steve to finish eating, then cleans the dishes once he's done. She goes back to sleep for a couple hours while Steve goes into his office to run his online business.
He finishes early, and they grab a trike to the mall. She likes to hold his hand in public to scare away the other women, but it's still endearing to him. They buy some groceries, grab lunch and maybe pick out a knock off DVD to watch later. They sit down to grab a mango juice and relax. She's not the smartest woman Steve's ever met, but she knows a surprising amount about current events and the medical field. She got her masters degree in nursing, and because Steve's into fitness, they often have interesting discussions about health. Steve is also interested in business and economics, and sometimes goes off on those tangents. Jen has no idea what he's talking about, but smiles and nods anyway since she knows he enjoys discussing it.
They get back home, Steve works out before going back to work while Jen cleans the house. Sometimes she misses working at the local clinic, but Steve made her choose between her career or being a nurturing wife and mother, and she chose to stay with him. Things will probably get busier once they have their first of 4 babies. She thinks about it and realizes it was the right decision. The main reason she went to school was there was no guarantee she would find a man that could provide for her, but that's no longer a concern. Steve has his problems: he's too frank, he can be too serious at times, and he's tight on money for the family. But he's been loyal and responsible, and he will make a good father. Her other friends are jealous about him. She decides she's lucky to have him.
She gets a phone call from a distant cousin about their daughter getting dengue fever or a car accident and how they need help with the hospital bills. This caused friction with Steve in the past when he found out they used the money to throw a birthday party for their daughter instead, so she avoids the topic these days. They worked out a system where he gives her $200 every month to cover food, medicine, and any other expenses that arise. It's worked out pretty well so far. She decides to give the cousin $50 and finds a way to stretch the rest for the month. Steve doesn't fully understand what she's saying in tagalog over the phone, but can hear a concerned tone and rolls his eyes. Another problem.
Sometimes he missed his days as a player, drinking red horses while watching the sunsets in Boracay, lining up easy hotties to get banged each night. But it got old after a while, and he ran into Jen while waiting in line at 7-11. She didn't put out right away and he lost interest, but she continued to message him and show concern for him. He fell off a motorbike once and she was the only one who showed up to the hospital. They started seeing each other more often and they'd grab coffee after work. She wasn't always super interesting, but she always had a smile on her face and a bubbly personality. She made him feel good. He eventually met her family and saw that they were still together and had a good relationship. She started pressuring him to settle down but he wasn't sure. He couldn't do the celibacy thing and got her to eventually give him her cherry after he promised to be her exclusive boyfriend. She was timid and boring at first, but eventually she got better and she always tried hard to please him.
After a couple years her parents began laying on the pressure for them to marry, and her cousins were gossiping about them breaking up. Jen grew anxious but Steve was in no rush. Eventually he started getting an urge to leave a legacy. Jen was great, but marriage is forever and he wasn't quite ready for those questions just yet. One night they were ready to smash but she forgot to get more birth control. In the heat of the moment they agreed he could just pull out, but after a few days of that he stopped trying. Subconsciously, maybe he wanted it that way. Either way, she didn't say anything. When she became pregnant, he realized he would have to make a decision. It pissed him off when her friends and family would come begging to him, and how she would just give away her hard earned money without asking. Sometimes she would get jealous and go dead silent when other girls checked him out. He didn't like how she would fish for attention on her facebook, or compete with her family members and friends for status. Sometimes he wished she had more interesting things to say. But overall she was a good woman who would cook for him, take care of him when he got sick, would always smile, got along well with her nieces and nephews, and didn't show the least hint of ball busting or feminism. He decided she would make a good mother some day. He asked if she'd be willing to leave work, and she agreed as long as they got married.
After finishing up his work, they had dinner together. She made his favorite, beef kare kare. She watched him eat slightly anxiously, until he smiled and approved. "Masarap". She cleaned up and joined him on the couch. They put in a movie and she curled up to him. The movie was pretty boring, and the way she rubbed his chest was becoming more noticeable. Things heated up and when he picked up her petite frame to take her into the bedroom, she let out an excited gasp. It was still a few months before she started to show, and they wanted to get in as much as they could in the meantime. She really got into it this time and he couldn't last any longer. Afterwards she curled up against him, played with his hair, and asked if he's nervous about being a father. He thought for a moment before answering. "Nope."
... YMMDV