Hey grasshopper.
I think you're doing the right things by building up your social circle etc. However, in reading through the way you go about it, you seem like a "people pleaser." I can tell because I've been there and then seen other guys bang the girls I was real "social" with.
Escalation is good and all but it will not come off as genuine if you don't change your mindset. Mentally, you need to be prepared to "focus" attention on one person or a few people rather than focusing on pleasing the crowd. You are not a clown.
I know it feels good to please others but you have to channel that into how it pleases you rather than others. And then stop giving a shit about consequences. Benefit to this is that you'll spend less time with the crowd and more with those that are quality people.
Key to escalation is not caring about what she thinks. Good luck.
I think you're doing the right things by building up your social circle etc. However, in reading through the way you go about it, you seem like a "people pleaser." I can tell because I've been there and then seen other guys bang the girls I was real "social" with.
Escalation is good and all but it will not come off as genuine if you don't change your mindset. Mentally, you need to be prepared to "focus" attention on one person or a few people rather than focusing on pleasing the crowd. You are not a clown.
I know it feels good to please others but you have to channel that into how it pleases you rather than others. And then stop giving a shit about consequences. Benefit to this is that you'll spend less time with the crowd and more with those that are quality people.
Key to escalation is not caring about what she thinks. Good luck.