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How to turn good friendly vibes into something more?
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How to turn good friendly vibes into something more?

Hey guys, this question is honestly so basic that I don't even know if this is a good place to post it or not, but hey, why not give it a shot.

I'm a senior in high school, white, blonde, blue eyes, 6'3", 90kg, pretty normal guy by all means. I'm not nerdy at all, and I've spent a long time working on my social skills. That's not to say they started off as being bad - I just genuinely enjoy talking to people and I kind of pride myself on being a good conversationalist. I'm interesting to talk to and have plenty of valuable things to say, but I'm not full of myself and I enjoy listening to people just as much as I like telling funny stories or making jokes.

I've slowly built my confidence over the years and I'm now at a point where I can walk into a party, strike up a conversation with anyone who I don't know with ease and become the centre of attention by just being a generally goofy and laid back guy. I move between friendship groups (outside of my core one) pretty fluidly because I don't like pissing people off or getting people offside, and I generally try to be a friend to all so people have no issues with inviting me to come out with them.

This probably sounds very arrogant but I can assure you that's not how I meant it. I'm just trying to describe myself so that you guys know I'm not just some nerd who can't talk to girls and sits inside playing games and wishing I had better social skills or confidence. I'm very happy with where I am right now as a person and I am very lucky to not have any major issues, however I have the absolute least amount of success with girls that you can imagine.

As I said, having an engaging conversation with someone of either gender is one of my strong points, however I am completely lost when it comes to turning those positive vibes in a sexual direction. I'll leave a party with 10 of my friends - all 10 of them will have made out with at least one girl, 3 of them will have gotten blowjobs and 1 of them might have gotten laid. I'll leave the party with 15 new best friends who I'll likely never see again and absolutely no sexual action... Every single time.

The final straw that prompted me to write this is a good example. This happened last weekend. I was at a party I'd been +1'ed to and I knew 2 people out of 100, who both left after an hour. I end up having a really interesting conversation with these two girls for ages and while neither of them would have caught my eye in a crowd, their super-nice personalities added a huge amount to how attractive I found them. One of them was laughing at all of my bad jokes and I was getting some good vibes. Fast forward 30 minutes and she and I are sitting together on a ledge with my arm around her and her head resting on my shoulder, looking like a full on couple to the rest of the group we were chatting to. All but 2 of the group left, and I got really fed up with waiting because I was sure this girl was into me, so I completely changed my posture towards her and (I was drunk) tried to softly pull her chin to face me. She was completely oblivious to what was going on and my operation had failed miserably. A few minutes later she left to use the bathroom and her friend lent down to tell me to hurry up and make a move. So I clearly wasn't misinterpreting the situation because another girl picked it up too. I told her I had just tried and she apologised for her friend's inexperience and said she wasn't rejecting me. Regardless, I didn't see the girl for the rest of the night and absolutely fucking nothing came out of it.

So, sorry this has got so long but my question is - how do I progress from good conversation and getting on a girl's good side to even just making out with them? I'm about to finish high school and I don't even care about sex yet. I just want a hook up here and there and maybe a blowjob if I'm super lucky. I feel like I'm 95% of the way there but I'm just missing some kind of sexual cue or something that will finish the job. I honestly can't describe how frustrating it is to routinely get close with girls but never have anything come out of it.

Thanks for taking the time to read guys! Any advice would be much appreciated.
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