There is no 'right time' to getting married. To put it bluntly, if you have to ask that question it means that you are not ready.
Marriage- even common law- is the most financially risky endeavor a man can make. But like most financially risky moves, marriage also has benefits.
There seems to be a lot of talk about just shacking up and having a family, no wedding, no license. Sure, but it still leaves a man exposed to all the downsides of marriage.
A wedding ceremony takes a lot of heat for being 'for the woman' but look at it from a mans point of view for a second. If you are getting married, it should be to a woman who has all her family on her side. This means she has a tight family where her father is the one giving her away. All the women in her family are putting the fear of God into her even through all the tears of joy.
The groom is a pillar of power, his best men surrounding him also putting fear into her. Imagine walking down the aisle being led by your father, who puts you alone into the midst of a group of men, all looking down on you. These are the men that will give their lives to you in worst case scenarios, but will also stand for none of the your bullshit (or shouldn't).
The benefits of marriage are that two people are held responsible by friends and family to making such a large decision, and are therefore not as likely to call it quits for no reason. And make no mistake, marriage is for having a family. Otherwise there is no point.
So as for the right time, its more about the right person. Wait until at least 30. Early to mid thirties is perfect especially when raising kids. Money is not the biggest issue, kids are not that expensive unless you want them to be. Being financially secure happens regardless if a man keeps his goals and vices in order.
Also be sure to marry someone who is able to function inside a business type environment. Much of marriage with kids is about efficiency and roles. This means marrying for a hot piece of ass and endless sex is doomed to failure. Be attracted sexually, of course, but keep this lower down on the list than you normally would.
Marriage- even common law- is the most financially risky endeavor a man can make. But like most financially risky moves, marriage also has benefits.
There seems to be a lot of talk about just shacking up and having a family, no wedding, no license. Sure, but it still leaves a man exposed to all the downsides of marriage.
A wedding ceremony takes a lot of heat for being 'for the woman' but look at it from a mans point of view for a second. If you are getting married, it should be to a woman who has all her family on her side. This means she has a tight family where her father is the one giving her away. All the women in her family are putting the fear of God into her even through all the tears of joy.
The groom is a pillar of power, his best men surrounding him also putting fear into her. Imagine walking down the aisle being led by your father, who puts you alone into the midst of a group of men, all looking down on you. These are the men that will give their lives to you in worst case scenarios, but will also stand for none of the your bullshit (or shouldn't).
The benefits of marriage are that two people are held responsible by friends and family to making such a large decision, and are therefore not as likely to call it quits for no reason. And make no mistake, marriage is for having a family. Otherwise there is no point.
So as for the right time, its more about the right person. Wait until at least 30. Early to mid thirties is perfect especially when raising kids. Money is not the biggest issue, kids are not that expensive unless you want them to be. Being financially secure happens regardless if a man keeps his goals and vices in order.
Also be sure to marry someone who is able to function inside a business type environment. Much of marriage with kids is about efficiency and roles. This means marrying for a hot piece of ass and endless sex is doomed to failure. Be attracted sexually, of course, but keep this lower down on the list than you normally would.